Am I bu or is he

[Happybunny1994]

I work 20 mins walk a way from work I don’t drive so cycle. You have to pass my house to get to work so often people insist on dropping me home. My mum also works in the same place so often picks me up and drops me off. I’m happy to cycle happy to walk I don’t expect lifts. But last night I mentioned to my partner about a lift home or to check with my mum that she wasn’t going to be down there this was due to having sinusitis a cold and feeling extra crappy. At the end of the day I asked my partner who was picking me up and if they couldn’t to let me no I would happily walk if needed. Turns out He had put his car in the garage so didn’t want to pick me up. when he asked my mum who was picking me up and she said she thought he was and that she was about to jump in the shower he said not to worry she would walk home. So of course my mum came to get me I’ve had the flu/ cold my sinus are swollen and after being on my feet all day she didn’t want me walking home. He knew about the lift it’s a 4 mins drive. My mums now annoyed at him for not wanting to come and get me my step dad said that if that was your Mum I wouldn’t let her walk with a cold. It’s all so awkward I haven’t said anything to my partner yet just don’t no what to say

Your mum and step dad are BU. your dh was the one to ask about a lift for you and told them you’d said you’d be ok to walk home which you had. They took it upon themselves to get overprotective of you. You need to put them straight.

This is your fault... you should have said I feel so I'm can't face the walk home....
Then you called your mum who came and got you and is now annoyed at your dp ...
Answer call your mum tell her your sorry you were not clear enough to your dp about not being safe to walk home... and he will do it next time your illl.....

Do you think he phoned your Mum, because he knew she wouldn't let you walk and he couldn't be bothered coming to get you?

That's out of order, it's guilt tripping your Mum. I would do the same for my Adult DDs.

That’s completely it that’s how I feel he always does stuff like this

I think people such as yourself are losing sight of what real issues are and don't think this necessarily required a MN post it's a very trivial issue. At the end of the day you said you were happy to walk... all seems a bit childish to me!

Well if he manipulated that situation did he also mean to make your mum angry with him?
You need to just say you need a lift from your partner if you do. By garage I thought you meant workshop and out of action. He believed you were happy to walk. It didn’t have to become a big drama.