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AIBU?

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aibu to be upset that my baby is sleeping?

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Prusik · 07/04/2018 16:29

Ok, so perhaps an unfair title.

DS1 (15 months) slept 8-8 last night. Napped 9.30-11.30. Napped 2-4.30 (and still snooing).

DS2 (11 weeks) - mostly mirrored DS1 naps but is asleep on me.

DH stayed in bed till 11.30 and went back to bed when ds1 went up.

I've spent most of my day alone and bored waiting for someone, ANYONE to wake. What the hell is wrong with the males in my family!

For context, I had a broken night with ebf ds2. Woke up at 8 with the two boys and have been awake ever since. I feel fine. Life kinda sucks

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ohgodalmightywhatnext · 07/04/2018 17:33

You have two beautiful children and your DH doesn't sound that bad.

I'd like to think your life doesn't suck.

pinkpantsrock · 07/04/2018 17:53

he slept for 12hrs solid, awake 1.5hrs then slept for another 2hrs? awake for 3ish then sleep again for 2 hrs? he's sleeping more than awake

does he normally sleep that much or having growth spurt?

Chosenbyyou · 07/04/2018 19:22

Lol! Yes you are haha!

I would love it if either of my two slept like that! Your eldest is an amazing sleeper, that would make a huge difference for me!

Enjoy some you time xx

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Prusik · 07/04/2018 19:27

@pinkpantsrock pretty usual - although perhaps sleeping about an extra hour today. He woke at 5pm and went to bed at 6.55 tonight.

It would be easier if ds2 didn't have to nap on me. I'm finding the lifestyle very isolating

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MallorieArcher · 07/04/2018 19:39

This is exactly when I discovered Mumsnet. And if Netflix streaming had been around when mine were small id have loved it even more!
The boredom of a baby asleep on you and being alone is super real. Have you tried a baby carrier? I used to strap DD on and just do what I wanted. Although that was usually sitting on my arse doing nothing

Hypermice · 07/04/2018 19:42

Yes yabu. I Almost broke, mentally and physically, with ds1 when he woke every hour at the very most for 18m. He went about seven months waking every 20mins. No family help at all. It almost killed me - I was suicidal with the exhaustion.

Just find something to occupy you - read a book or watch Tv and spare a thought for those mums of kids who don’t sleep.

Pooshy · 07/04/2018 19:45

Enjoy it! Watch netflix, read a book, stare into space!

Flyingpompom · 07/04/2018 19:52

Why has your DH been in bed all day?

DrunkUnicorn · 07/04/2018 19:54

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PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 07/04/2018 19:56

YABU.

RedForFilth · 07/04/2018 19:59

Yep your life sounds shit with all that peace and quiet ffs. If you don't want to be alone go out and do something.

MissOrganisedMe · 07/04/2018 20:02

Jealous! My 13 month old isn't a good sleeper and hasn't slept like your 15 month old in her life. Yes, YABU......

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Prusik · 07/04/2018 20:19

Don't get me wrong, I'm up hourly with ds2. Does no one else think a 15 month old should have a longer awake time than 90 minutes? My friends go to soft play, out for lunch, into town, to the farm. I generally don't go anywhere because ds1 will get up, eat, have a play for half an hour/45 minutes and then go back to bed. Surely anyone can see that it's a limited existence to live like that?

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MumofBoysx2 · 07/04/2018 20:22

Enjoy the time to rest yourself. Your littlest won't sleep that much for very long. Be glad you can get some proper rest x

PippaPug · 07/04/2018 20:22

Just cut his morning nap out - up at 7am, then go out at 9ish and if he isn’t tired he can nap in the buggy, walk to the library or soft play, wake him up let him play and then go home for lunch and then a nap at home?

lostherenow · 07/04/2018 20:23

By 15months my youngest only slept 45ins in the day. If he slept at all. The eldest at the same age only slept if you spent an hour or so pushing him in the pushchair after letting him run round like a crazy thing so he would finally give up and fall asleep.

Being a SAHP is isolating yes. But better to be a bit isolated than absolutely exhausted. Get a sling, go out for lunch. Tell your DH not to spend all day in bed.

Liara · 07/04/2018 20:24

Actually that amount of sleep in a 15 month old does strike me as quite worrying.

That said, I was gifted with the magic never sleeping babies followed by the never sleeping toddlers, so I may have a biased view. Neither of mine was sleeping more than 10 out of 24 hours by that point.

eggsandwich · 07/04/2018 20:29

My Dd now 15 was like your ds1, she would get up have breakfast then fall asleep for 2 hours then have lunch and another 2 hour nap and a 2 hour afternoon nap, I’d then give her tea and she’d start to fall asleep in her high chair or put her on the bath mat, turn round to get the towel and she would be asleep, then put her to bed at 7.30 and she would sleep till 8 the following morning.

I think some children need more sleep than others, my son slept no where near as much.

Joinourclub · 07/04/2018 20:30

Wow you have two kids younger than my youngest, and I still consider her a baby!

When my youngest was newborn she slept all day on me, but my eldest no longer napped and wanted entertaining. I found that hard to manage and would have loved for him to sleep for large chunks of the day so I could just sit down with the youngest and watch Netflix. Grass is always greener I suppose.

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Prusik · 07/04/2018 20:39

@PippaPug I've tried cutting his morning nap with the most hideous of consequences. He screams blue murder until he can get in his cot. It's hideous. He just screeches and thrashes and hyperventilates until he's allowed to go to bed and sleep.

Don't get me wrong. I do understand that I'm fortunate. But at the same time I don't feel like it's normal. How will he ever learn anything if his only awake time is to eat and have a short play?

I spent a couple of weeks waking him up after 90 minutes/2 hours and taking him out. He managed mon-fri. Caught up on sleep at the weekends and after the second week broke out in a coldsore and has been poorly for the past three weeks. He was getting more and more exhasted i was so happy to be able to go to playgroups!

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Prusik · 07/04/2018 20:40

Boys are a year and ten days apart

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NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 07/04/2018 21:07

It sounds like a lot of sleep, but to honest, like many others, all I can think is "lucky lucky woman". Dc2 wakes every hour, every night (or more) and bf like a demon. last week it averaged 12 times a night I was up. It's actual torture. Unfortunately I doubt you're going to get much sympathy, sorry!

icantdothis2017 · 08/04/2018 10:03

That's a lot of sleep for a 15 month old.
Mine napped for 30 minutes in the day at that age

SoyDora · 08/04/2018 10:08

I do think that sounds like a lot of sleep for a 15 month old and I would go a little insane stuck at home all that time (and I had DD1 who didn’t sleep through until she was 3.5!).
Both mine only had one nap at that age, around 12-2. DD2 slept 7-6 with a 2 hour nap, DD1 slept 7-7 but with multiple wake ups and had a 2 hour nap. I found that limiting as they’d both only nap in their cots! Rejoiced when they dropped their naps at around 20 months.

Homemenu1 · 08/04/2018 10:16

Has he always slept like that? That is a lot of sleep anyone

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