Fully prepared to be flamed here as it involves my parents money.
My brother (1 year older) is getting married in two years. He and his partner are low earners but have planned a 40k wedding. They are mostly using loans to pay but my parents are making a 5k contribution.
I am single and realistically don't see myself ever getting married. I'm financially independent. Am currently selling and buying a house but the house I'm buying has just been undervalued by 8K. The vendors have agreed to meet me in the middle but I can't find another 4k on top of my current deposit.
Today I asked my parents if they would be willing to lend the half of the money (2k) but they said they would not, as they are paying towards my brothers wedding. They said that if I was getting married they could find the money for me but helpfully pointed out that I am not! When I said this was unfair they said I just need to wait until I get married.
I don't see myself getting married. I'm almost 30, haven't had a serious relationship for a few years. I like being single and am not sure if marriage is what I want. I'm a commitment-phobe and to be honest see marriage as an endurance test. I also see little point blowing a load of money on one day.
AIBU to think that if you're going to give your children money, giving it for a house is more sensible than for a wedding?