I am in a strop and being snappy -imagine this is anxiety although I dont normally feel anxious. My parents have (imo) a romantic notion that a family holiday would be great. Us, dcs, them and in laws. I see absolutely no pleasure in this -just constant compromise to the most mediocre option, feeling edgey, constantly trying to appease everyone as I am the common denominator. Sides of the family don't know each other well -Christmas day always together and a few meals out per year. AIBU? Do people do this and find it pleasurable? We'd each pay our own way, I would insist on a kitty as there's the one that would happily let everyone else pay, we dont want or need babysitting services as family holisays for us are about time with the dcs. One side of the family will be fairly independent and be happy to come togerher for meals and odd activities, one side of the family is not and will be with us in every waking moment. Please share your own experiences with me so I can have a more balanced and open minded view. For the record, there are no relationship issues on either side, just dont see any romance in a big melting pot. AIBU?