That my cousin liked me on OLD

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So I'm on the app tinder and paid money so I can see who has swiped yes. Of those people is my cousin who I grew up with and is the same age as me. AIBU to think this is slightly weird. I feel a bit creeped out. I told my DM but she thinks it's a laugh, she thinks everything is a laugh though.

For further reference at my grandad funeral recently his mum (my aunt) joked we should hook up and then went ah no your cousins aren't you ha ha. I just awkwardly laughed along. So AIBU?

I don’t think it means he actually wants to date you.

It might have been a mistake. When I was on POF I used to say yes to loads at once when I was bored as it was a bit of a laugh.

I'm not the best person to ask as my DP is my cousin, but that's us and the point is you're not comfortable with it. I'd say leave it at the moment but if you're approached by your cousin then have a word.

Sorry I don't want to drip feed so will mention now. Also maybe I feel a bit odd because his older brother sexually abused me for a short period when we were both young. So I feel is this family a little weird? Just creeps me out a bit

Can you undo a swipe? The amount of times I have clicked the wrong thing in social media is outrageous is it possible it was an error and he’s cringing?

You sure he didn't "like" you as a way of saying hi on there?

I have no idea how tinder works.

Just fuck him. No one else cares.

Ok, that is quite a drip feed. It's understandable that you would feel that way. But remember this cousin is innocent and so far that action may have only been friendly.

I would usually say it was a mistake/a laugh but my cousin used to make a lot of sexual references to me. We hadn't grown up together so he thought I was fair game!

I have this cousin on social media so he could say hi on there. Could be an accidental swipe on his behalf. Just what my aunt said along with the older cousin and stuff seems odd to me. He doesn't know I know he said yes to me on there

And that's the point, you are uncomfortable. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

Maybe he wanted you to know that he had seen your profile, as in to alert you that you were both on the same site.

How would you feel if he had swiped “no”

Can you block people on tinder? If so I'd block him if it's made you feel uncomfortable, I can completely understand why it has.

Does your profile pic actually look like you??

leeds but surely he would see my profile and be like oh there's my cousin, nope. Why would he need to alert me. I'd see his profile at some point.

Maybe your cousin just wanted to follow what you were up to rather than fancying you (which would be ...ew!)

Maybe he was trying to be supportive. I’m sure if it meant he wanted to date you, you’d know it.

It’s very legal anyway, I have friends that are a “cousins couple”.

How would I feel if he swiped No??? fine with that because he's my cousin who I grew up with and would not see him in that way.

Not sure if I can block.

Don't know why he would feel the need to support me. As I've seen him on there before my grandpa's funeral and he never said yes. I deleted it and no have it again and this time it's a yes. Before the funeral I had not seen him for about 6/7 years.

I know it's legal desh however I grew up with my cousin so would never see him in that way.
Could be a mistake like others have said but could not be. Just wanted to know if I was BU about it

I think you're reading far too much into it, OP. A few friends of mine have swiped right for me and viceversa and we just said hey, fancy seeing you here! We were not remotely interested in dating each other, we would have said hi if we'd bumped into each other at the supermarket so it just felt like that.