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Weird neighbours

77 replies

PrettyLittIeThing · 06/04/2018 17:05

Please tell me other people have neighbours like this and it's not just me! So whenever I am in my garden my neighbours will spy out the window at me. They did it last summer and now that the weather is getting better it looks like they are back to it. (Haven't been using the garden much until now.) Last year they use to spy out when my kids were in their paddling pool. Now I am tidying up the garden ready for the nice weather they are looking out directly down at us again. Even if I look up they just stay there staring. It's the parents and the kids that do it. Today the daughter was hanging out of the window looking down at us and just singing?! It made me uncomfortable to the point I went back inside. Aibu to find this annoying. Sometimes I think it's because I live in a gff (well it's a mainsonette) as surely in a house you wouldn't look into your other neighbours garden whereas they are above us. Before anyone days maybe they are just looking outside at the view. No they are definitely not as they are looking directly down and there is no view anywy just trees. Aibu to find this annoying? Just to add me and these neighbours don't talk at all other than collecting parcels from each other (been about 4 times in two years so not often.) but that's the only interaction we have had.

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busybuildingdens · 06/04/2018 18:56

I have a neighbour who watches us in the garden. He doesn’t like us and won’t speak to us out the front, but watches us, and waves (!!!!!) if we are in the back. I just do a ‘WTF’ look and go inside until he’s gone. (P.S. he doesn’t watch us in a pervy way, just clearly very nosy!)

4yoniD · 06/04/2018 19:41

I have a neighbor (retired, married, lives with wife) who seems to watch out the window a lot. He once said to me, in a hushed tone, "I saw you bringing in the milk in your nightie the other day ... I had to go upstairs and finish off" Shock

stopbeingabloodyvictim · 06/04/2018 19:46

Are you possibly disturbing them with noise and it's their passive aggressive way to let you know?

PrettyLittIeThing · 06/04/2018 19:53

No because I was sweeping in the garden earlier when she came out so tht can't exactly be loud? Anyway children are allowed to play in thir gardens. They come out even when I just hang washing out, so that would mean they didn't want me to use the garden at all. Which they shouldn't choose a flat with gardens underneath (plenty without) if they don't want to hear people in their gardens.

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HolyMountain · 06/04/2018 20:00

I had a neighbour who stood on a bench in his garden to watch us whenever we went out into ours. He would try to start up inane conversations with us, so was totally blatant

Did you start a thread about this , it sounds very familiar.

DairyisClosed · 06/04/2018 20:05

I love the flower seed idea. But u would put 'Staring is rude'

DontCallMeCharlotte · 06/04/2018 20:12

YANBU. They are out of order but I feel a bit sad for them. I bet not having a garden wasn't on their wishlist when looking for a home. Especially with children.

Motherd · 06/04/2018 20:12

Jesus Christ I've got to admit that would freak me out! That is SO creepy! Stuff like that makes me feel massively uncomfortable and I can totally see where you are coming from. I honestly don't even know what to suggest but they have got to stop spying on you and just staring at you! They sound strange. Shock

Avonandice · 06/04/2018 20:15

I thought it was just me that had a neighbour like this, anything we do in the garden is a signal for him to come and sit on his bench just watching us. We had a drive installed and he came out when the builders started and he stood there all day just watching them. His wife started watching and then went inside and was apparently on the phone to planning department to check we had all the right permissions in place and that the council had said we could have a drive. Planning were uninterested in the problem as all permissions were in place and the builder had been their recommended builder, and he wouldnt do anything without all being in place. It snowed all day they did the drive. Anything we do he just sits there.

MrsLinManuelMiranda · 06/04/2018 20:23

You are not alone with nosey neighbours. We recently built a largish summerhouse in the back of our garden. The neighbour from the house that backs onto ours actually complained because she can no longer see into our dining room and watch us from her landing and bedroom window.

PrettyLittIeThing · 06/04/2018 20:24

The thing is I would believe it was just them looking out the window if it wasn't every time I come out and they are never out first, they come out after I come out each time. They look down into our garden, which is quite far down with my house being a mainsonette and them ontop of us, it's not like they are looking straight ahead, it's straight down! Yes they probably wanted a garden however I lived in a 3rd floor flat with my kids before living here and I never expected an invite into anyone else's garden.

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PrettyLittIeThing · 06/04/2018 20:25

Some of these neighbours are making mine not seem so bad though! Glad to hear im not the only one, we was going to have dinner in the garden earlier with the weather being quite nice here, I decided against it! Confused

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IJustLostTheGame · 06/04/2018 20:26

Plant a massive flower bed in the shape of cock and balls.

Gide · 06/04/2018 20:34

The neighbour from the house that backs onto ours actually complained because she can no longer see into our dining room and watch us from her landing and bedroom window.

Wtaf?! That is beyond weird. Did she come round to tell you this?

DoctorWhatTheFuck · 06/04/2018 20:39

"I saw you bringing in the milk in your nightie the other day ... I had to go upstairs and finish off" shock

MrsLinManuelMiranda · 06/04/2018 21:51

@Gide She saw my DH in corner shop and told him she liked our garden room, but it was a shame that it obscured her view of us having our meals.

MinnieMinchkin · 06/04/2018 22:26

HolyMountain, no, not me. But XH still lives there, so may be his current partner has written about it Shock. I doubt the neighbour has changed! I have lovely neighbours now Smile

hooochycoo · 07/04/2018 07:20

To be honest, you sound the weird neighbours. You’ve lived in your house years without getting to know your neighbours? How bizarre. It’s not as if you need to live in their pockets to know who they are and acknowledge their existence with a smile and wave.

How utterly unfriendly and weird.

bastardkitty · 07/04/2018 07:29

Oops is it goady o'clock again?

Uniglo18 · 07/04/2018 07:54

Put a gazebo up and a strategically placed fake ctv camera pointing upwards. If you see a community police officer walking past you can always ask them for advice. How do you know they're not perving on you or your kids?

Ghanagirl · 07/04/2018 08:12

”I saw you bringing in the milk in your nightie the other day ... I had to go upstairs and finish off"
Finish what?

RedRobin87 · 07/04/2018 08:20

When we first moved into our house (new build), the fences were 3/4 with trellis on top so everyone could see into each other's gardens.

We quickly replaced all our fencing when it became apparent our neighbours would spend much of their days just staring through it....

Obviously your neighbours looking through their windows is fine, but when it becomes blatant staring it's weird. If I look out of our bedroom windows it looks on to the house behind us and then some fields and a few times I think they have thought I was watching them when in fact I was looking across the fields but clearly your neighbours are definitely looking at you and not something else

AllNamesTakenhell · 07/04/2018 08:24

Come on Ghanagirl, finish himself off. Gross.

Ghanagirl · 07/04/2018 09:29

I kind of thought that be didn’t think a neighbor would be bold enough to say something so rude😕

AllNamesTakenhell · 07/04/2018 09:30

There are plenty of rude people in the world unfortunetely. I lived in a block of flats with one who used to yell 'sexy ladies' to passing women...

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