OK, so posting here for traffic...
Ex was emotionally abusive and controlling. Lives in spare room with his parents following his arrest (not charged, lack of evidence), him and kids sleep on blow up. Currently he has every other weekend and half holidays.
I have a support worker, outreach etc to assist particularly as eldest is bearing the brunt of his nastiness now. Emotional manipulation etc and is having counselling (aged 5).
Yet again this week I've had eldest smacking their own head, having meltdowns because "my brain is too full". This morning it's "daddy says he's going to win us and you'll go away forever". I never, ever say anything unpleasant about dad.
Would I be unreasonable to see how this weekend goes and if it happens again tell my ex to take me to court? Because I'm resident parent social services have little interest in investigating and say it's up to me to do what I think needs to be done to protect my kids.
Feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place. I've tried everything to facilitate a relationship, ex says he wants kids but won't move or take any weekdays. Just wants all free time.
Gah!