'Come and collect your present/gift'

[InspMorse]

This seems to happen to me a lot...
Being asked to go and collect a gift or present someone has bought me via text or email.

Colleague at work 1 - Christmas card/present - 'Come up and get your gift InspM'
Colleague at work 2 - Bought me a small gift in return for a favour I'd done them - 'Pop down & get such and such InspM'
Friends/ DB/SIL- 'When can you come over for DS's present InspM?'

AIBU to think that if you buy someone a gift, you take it to them? and don't summon them to you.

His family drive me mad, don't get me started on the joint birthday/Christmas present for my December born child

huge massive sympathies .... and your poor Child...

Is it possibly a clumsy attempt at them inviting you over, and they're letting you know about the gift at the same time?

Maybe they don't want to invite themselves or put pressure on you to invite them by just saying they have a gift so are letting you know its there and you're welcome to visit.

My dad used to do this all the time and it drove me mad. I agree it's random but lazy people to it.

My brother once came home from having visited my parents' place 250 miles from us, and called me up to ask me to come round to his house to collect something Mum and Dad had sent back with him. It was quite late so told him I'd come the next day, as I'd be passing on my way somewhere, and I'd got no plans to go out again anywhere that actual day. He asked again that I come and collect it right then, and I reiterated that it was easier to come the next day (he would have been in etc.) but he kept on, asking what I was doing that I couldn't come there and then. I finally gave in, he doesn't live too far away really.

On my way to his house I was getting quite intrigued as to what the heck it could be that he couldn't spare house space for it for 12 hours. How big could it be that it was getting in his way and needed to be taken away immediately?? All quite exciting and mysterious...

... it was a chocolate bar with my name on it. WTF??

YANBU. All ILs do this. Every birthday, Christmas, Easter, for all of us, we have to go and bloody collect it. Really pisses me off as it smacks of cba to come and deliver it. One set live a 5 minute drive! With a particular IL, it's definitely as a pp said and a way of getting DH to go there. Maybe we'll start telling them they have to come and get theirs. Obviously DH is fully expected to deliver theirs.

Just realised my sister does it too. And doesn't care that my kids never end up with their presents anywhere near the event as she is often unavailable for me to actually go and get it. In fact she appears to have not even bother with last Christmas and Birthdays despite promising to give it afterwards.

My friends Mum used to do this. Mind you she was a narcissistic bullying control freak who expected her daughter to be grateful for her mother giving her a birthday present. My friend used to be asked what she’d like, she’d tell her Mum what she wanted and then her Mum would give her something completely different that she liked or approved of instead. Then my friend would have to wait weeks for them to visit and bring it or she’d have to go and get it herself. Completely rude.