To not go to a wedding?

[lizzlebizzle33]

A colleague is getting married tomorrow, and Ds2 (5mo old) has just come down with a bad cold. He's cranky, snotty, high temp the lot.
PIL were supposed to be having ds1 & 2 for the day so DH and I could go to this wedding.
I'm now reluctant to leave him as he's already glued to me 24/7 never mind when he is ill. I don't want him screaming all day because I've taken my boobs away (the only thing that can get him to sleep sometimes) and I don't want PILs to have a nightmare day either, ds1 who has just turned 2 is nightmare enough!

So what do I do? Tell friend I can't make it? Take baby with me?

I should add it is a local wedding so I will be close to home should I need to come back.

A big part of it is I like him to BF more when he is ill in the hope he will get better quicker and don't really want him to have formula all day.

Is a poorly baby not a reason not to go to a wedding? Am I a shit friend if I don't go?

Go for the ceremony but not stay on for the reception?
You are at the important bit then and it's a local wedding. He'll survive for a couple of hours with your in laws

Go to the wedding, stay for the meal and then leave. I think your ds2 will be okay on formula, my dcs were formula fed. I think the wedding is important.

I think there is even a meal, it's a late wedding, starts at 4 and then straight to the night do.

I should go I know you're right, I just hate the thought of him screaming. They couldn't handle him when I went on the hen do and they didn't have ds1 then too 😁

*don't think there is a meal

Don't bring him to the wedding if he's cranky (and not invited?), the bride doesn't need a baby making noise all through her ceremony.

I say go to the ceremony and then make your excuses and leave if you want to. Otherwise just don't go.

Kids are invited, couple have 7 of their own between them, DH and I just decided to go without them for a bit of us time.x

Yeah just go to the ceremony, ring the parents and see how they're getting on, and head back early if needed :) It's only a couple of hours