Apparently this “isn’t enough food”

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Dd is 8
Height and weight fine

I’ve just been told by a visiting friend I’m basically starving her when she saw her lunch !
1 mini pitta
6 mini breadsticks
Dessert spoon of houmous
Dessert spoon of guacamole
Bowl of strawberries cut up (6 big ones)
A frube

That’s fine isn’t it??
For breakfast she had a bowl of plain yogurt and loads of berries
She will most likely have an afternoon snack usually cheese or a piece of fruit and dinner is normally casserole/fish pie/jacket potato and soup or similar
She has milk before bed
She’s fine !! Always has small snacks lunches and doesn’t complain of hunger
Friend was aghast and said her kids at 18 m old ate more than that

it’s clearly not enough

Says who (apart from you)? She's perfectly healthy, is within expected height and weight range for her age, what's the issue?

People have different appetites and different requirements calorifically. We've lost sight of what's a normal portion. Why are you insistent on giving her more food than she apparently wants or needs?

ghoul

Alot of kids who are overweight are also over tall so she may be shorter than the other kids in her class but the problem is unlikely to be her being short and underfed. Far more likely that a fair amount of children weighed and measured to use as these statistics/monitoring tools were on the heavier and taller side

Dd 1 is 11 and 135cm dd2 is 7 and somewhere between 116 and 120cm .

Certainly alot of the ones taller than her are also ones who are stockier

The lunch is only 1 small pitta ( not even a normal size one) and a desert spoon of hummus and a desert spoon of guacamole. Tiny quantities. I don’t know anyone who would call that lunch for an 8 year. The desert would be OK if there was a decent portion of main course.

Regular pittas are pretty big though id not give whole ones to my 7 yr old.

The mini ones are fine. They are what id give mine.

You know your daughter. She sounds v healthy.
The dessert spoons are of healthy, calorie dense food.
I really wouldn't worry what your 'shocked' friend thinks.

My DS is 8 weighs 27 kg but is 135cm tall. He’s a good self regulator and slim. I know what a healthy weigh 8 year old looks line. None of the children in his Y3 class as overweight and none of them are as short as OP’s DD.

If say that was unlikely given something like 1 in 5 are overweight in reception and that increases to 1 in 3 by year six.

A wholewheat pita bread is about 150cals. Fine for an 8 year old as a balanced lunch and they don’t have to eat it all. Mini pitta are only 79cals.

Maybe the area I live but none are overweight. Maybe a couple towards higher end of normal.

But if she was hungry shed ask for more....

Drs are not concerned

Stupid to dish up stuff she won't eat and bin it.

Sounds like a snack between lunch and dinner for my 4 year old but they are all different!

We have lost sight of normal though that's the problem.

It's normal the days for kids to he fed more times than a new born baby would be. Is a munching god knows how much crap en route to the car lest they waste away in ten minute journey home.

My DS around the middle of his class for weight I’d say and he’s 40th centile for BMI. There is no way this amount of food was ever normal for an eighth year unless the parents couldn’t afford to feed their children.

The idea of a this little girl being left hungry or undernourished is making me upset.

But she's neither

The Drs have said she's fine. Dd 1 is a similar size to your ds. She has been weighed and measured and came back as normal too.

So why are you so sad when medical professionals are perfectly happy juzt because she doesn't polish off two jacket potatoes and 6 pints of lol for lunch

Milk

You’re extremely rude. I think what OP is feeding her DD her healthy but simply not enough. Someone upthread worked out calories for the day and what the gov said a child her age should have and was about 500 calories short. Her DD needs to eat about more. Malnutrition is a potential issue here.

she doesn't polish off two jacket potatoes and 6 pints of lol for lunch

This thread has given me more than 6 pints of lol.

The OP's child is neither undernourished nor hungry, based on all the information the OP has provided. Her lunch sounds absolutely fine for her. MNetters can have some truly bizarre notions about what constitutes healthy eating.

But it's one day and you can only go by the average calories in what you are guessing to be the servings for the dinner without knowing exactly what went into the the version that was served. Fish pie for instance could have a ton of cheese and cream on the sauce or it could be made with skimmed milk and very little cheese etc

If the Drs were concerned they wluld have said something wouldn't they?

After all if she was regularly inserted and not growing school would have reported her plus Drs would be concerned when they saw her.

She hardly sounds deprived of food and of she's hungry she's capable of asking and does so.

Regularly underfed

Ghoul actually, you're the one being rude. If I were the OP I'd be quite irked to see a random poster pontificating and determining that they were 'upset' (WTAF?) at the quantities I was feeding my child. I would know my child, you would not.

Be a bit more circumspect with chucking around emotive terms like 'undernourished' when you know nothing of the sort otherwise you'd be termed a 'hand-wringer', always 'upset' without a cause. Be rightly upset for the children in poverty whose parents are struggling and maybe do something about that.

Malnutrition is a potential issue here.

No it isn't

You seem weirdly invested here. Do you have food issues of your own?

It’s not making me lol when there’s an underfed child at the heart of it. I’m leaving this thread. I would suggest you speak to the school nurse and ask her for advice. This really isn’t normal.

Whts not normal is the vast quantities of food that people seem strangely proud of their kids eating the constant snacking and the fact that clothes sizes are now so large yet everyone insists their child is just tall when they need 2 or three ages above their kids age in order to fit.

If anyone had any concerns they would have been flagged by scholl by the Dr by anyone who dealt with the child.

It looks like a small amount when you read the list, perhaps when on a plate would look more substantial, I would take the cue from your child if she isn't still hungry then that's the most important thing. If she told you she were still hungry after the plate of food as long as you give her something more.

I have a two year old and she eats like a horse but is perfectly normal for her height and weight and also runs around like a mad thing most of the day, it's all relative

I think it would be helpful to see the actual lunch on a plate. Difficult to imagine accurately from a written list.