God this is going to make me sound awful.
Divorced ex husband 13 years ago. He was domestically abusive and has repeatedly let our three children down and not paid a penny for them over the last 13 years.
Due to his refusal to stay in work we ended up in massive debt. I have been paying most of this off over the last 13 years with no assistance at all from him. If I have contacted him about joint debt he has ignored it.
I've been struggling the kids whole childhoods with serious ill health, three kids, low working income and no financial support at all. Or any support in fact while he has been out with his mates partying and getting drunk.
One example is paying off a huge dwp loan that paid for furniture just before I left when our home flooded. The new furniture was all still in his new home as he took it with him (we both moved) but he didn't deem himself responsible in any way.
Most of the stuff I have paid has been hundreds and up to 3k.
On Thursday ex husband got a bill in joint names but to his house only and has tracked me down and isn't happy at all. It was one I had no idea we still owed but it is definitely not statue barred.
The bill is joint and severely liable so we are both responsible for the whole amount separately or together.
Wib massively unreasonable and a total bitch to not contact the bill people myself to arrange payment until he has set up payment arrangements to make sure he shoulders some of the responsibilities?
I'm just sick of the fact they are going to take money when we are barely managing and he's going to still pay nothing and carry on as always if I don't.