To think you wouldn't go on holiday with your ex...

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Even if it was the only way you could take DC on a holiday of a lifetime ?

We need more information, is the ex the father of the DC? Is the ex paying for the holiday? Why is it the only way the holiday can take place? Can't the same holiday happen if the mother takes a friend or relative instead?

We need more information op

Somewhere with high cliffs maybe......

Inspired by another thread where at least 6 people have asked the OP, why not invite the ex .......

A friend of mine used to.

They all used to go, Mum and their two children, Dad, new wife and her two children. They all got on fine and went on long haul holidays as well as trips to family.

If it works I don't see the problem

I've done it. It was fine. But we get on fairly well, otherwise it'd have been a complete no-no. I think it's nice to do things together as a family sometimes.

Christmas is always spent at my house, with my new partner and his GF. Saves any to-ing and fro-ing for the DCs and means they get to see that we all get along, which I think is healthy for them. Clearly this wouldn't work for everyone but if there's no acrimony, why not?

My aunt and uncle have been divorced for 30 years and holiday together every year.

It depends on your situation, doesn't it?

I get on well with DS1's Dad and his DW-to-be. They spend Christmas and Birthdays with us. It makes life easier for DS1 because we get on; he doesn't have any kind of divided loyalties because there's simply no competition; we all love him, we all have the luxury of knowing the others are putting him first. But I don't for one second believe that all families could be this way simply because ours is. I also don't believe that when parents break up and find new partners that everyone puts in the same time, energy and effort and when you're trying to co-parent with someone who doesn't contribute and compromise, it's pointless and soul-destroying.

So yes, sometimes it'd be best to take a holiday of a lifetime together. Other times it would cause nothing but chaos and upset.

Chef I hope you mean your new partner and his EX GF?

Yeah I would, I am on decent terms with a lot of my ex partners and I would always put my children first.

We used to go on holiday with my mum's ex husband (my brother and sisters dad). He even lived with us at one point. Every situation is different.

It really depends on the situation. How well you get on, if there's children involved etc. My friend goes on holiday every year with her ex and their two children who are teens now. They get on very well still, they buy each other gifts on mothers/fathers day and go out for meals as a family on their birthdays. They've both got new partners who thankfully understand that this is just what they do and it won't change until the kids no longer want to go on family holidays and things. I couldn't imagine doing it but it works for them.

I used to quite a lot when my son was young, I used to have to go into a different room and swear to myself every now and then but overall it worked well and my son loved it.

My ex and I have done it a few times and we're planning on doing it again. It works well for us, although we have both taken them away separately as well. It's unusual, but not that odd, and it's got to be better than arguing over these things and our children leading completely split lives.

My best friend does this, they still do holidays and vacations together with ex, even though they both have new partners.
They are still co parents, and get on fine though, it wasn't a hostile split

I have done. Right now it's the only way my dd is able to get a few days holiday. (She has asd and complex MH problems)

I can understand why ex partners with children might do this but I can't understand why new partners would put up with it.

@Aprilmightmemynewname

would depend on the situation/how well you get on with the ex etc etc........I wouldn't fancy it though personally

We did on some occassions with my husband's ex, like all go to visit the grandchild together, or all go for a significant birthday together. But then we've always gotten along well.

I think if it was for a significant event and it would save money (like, if we could all car share or get a family deal somewhere) I might consider it, but I can't imagine a current partner being very happy with the situation, to be honest.

To clarify I do sometimes do things with dp and his ex, like birthdays, gymnastic shows etc. but would not be with him if he wanted to go on holiday with her and kids and not me.

I go on holiday with my ex and our DC. We get on well and are quite good friends now we don’t have the pressure of being a couple. The DC enjoy spending time with us both and for now it works. I’m sure it will change as the DC get older.

We also spend birthdays and Christmas together. He has a new partner so she’ll be joining us on family occasions too.

It might seem weird from the outside but I think it’s up to each family to do what works for them.