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How to feel sexy / make myself feel sexy

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Rejectedwoman · 03/04/2018 20:00

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Going away in a couple of weeks for a weekend away with a very good friend. Developing into more than friends. Possibly a friend's with benefits. He's older than me, totally single and no kids. Known each other ages and kissed lots, spent lots of time together since Christmas. Feel really happy and relaxed in his company. I really like him. He's made it clear he wants to stay single and doesn't want a relationship but when we go out he will hold my hand all the time, across the table, kiss all the time. Messaged me every single day but not in an excessive or suffocating way. Talks alot about me and my life and interests / career etc. Really listens and takes time. He's really my best friend.

Anyway after being married years and a couple of shitty men recently which I posted about and don't want to go over again I am quite nervous. Brought some nice new underwear. Will do subtle hair and make up so I am still 'me' Shave everywhere as that's how I will feel more comfortable. Nice perfume etc.

Where we are staying is a king bed with a huge double shower in . I booked the accommodation but we have talked about what we will be doing when we arrive lol. He's very much asking what I like. That he wants me to be comfortable and please me etc. He says he snores and even went today and brought some spray from boots as he said he doesn't want me kept awake when my head is on his chest trying to sleep . That melted me when he told me that. I thought it was so sweet and lovely of him. Aah....

Come on girls how do I let out the inner sex goddess after years being called names, lack of sex, shit marriage and umpteen kids..
Help!! And yes I know he's a lucky bastard to have a curvy lady 14 years younger in his bed. And he agrees haha x

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OneStepSideways · 03/04/2018 20:08

Hope you have a lovely time!

Take some nice massage oils (ones you like the smell of). Get a pedicure in case he gives you a foot massage (or use that Footner stuff so they're really soft). Trim toenails!
I like to shower or wash down below with a jug before sex (for me not him, I like feeling fresh).
Relax, have a laugh, watch a film.
Wear a translucent filmy nightie thing if you feel too exposed being naked or something made of fine fishnet.

bananafish81 · 03/04/2018 20:11

Take some nice massage oils (ones you like the smell of)

Just be careful if using condoms as oils can damage latex!

Have fun!

Thisisnotwhatiwant · 03/04/2018 20:14

What ever it takes for you to feel confident... they say that confidence is sexy. Just enjoy yourself

Rejectedwoman · 03/04/2018 20:17

Might just pop one of his t shirts on. Would a bloke like that do you think?

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SharronNeedles · 03/04/2018 20:18

Shave your legs and roll around on satin sheets. I know I sound like I'm taking the piss but I do do this to feel sexy.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 03/04/2018 20:22

Shirt probably better than t shirt.

Avoid Footner. When I’ve used it my feet have peeled from week 2 to 4 afterwards.

Juiceylucy09 · 03/04/2018 20:22

Think and talk yourself into feeling/been sexy. I know sounds cringe but hopefully it works. A good moisturising, sounds like you have the rest covered.

Your both adults, let loose and have fun x

esk1mo · 03/04/2018 20:29

when i want to feel sexy (in the bedroom) i make sure im shaved, moisturised with cocoa butter and fake tanned. i like matching underwear, under some cute yet sexy pjs. i use perfume & i use a watermelon body spray from superdrug on my body Smile i like my nails to be freshly painted (and match my toes!). nice make up and wear my hair down in loose curls. dim the lights, put on some music . i prefer to be sober but one drink to relax doesnt hurt Smile

thats me anyway, im sure everyone is different.

AnaViaSalamanca · 03/04/2018 20:30

stylecaster.com/how-to-be-sexy/

Rejectedwoman · 03/04/2018 20:36

Yes to the gel manicure and pedi. I am due one soon. Also no touching myself for a good while before. Build up some sexual frustration a bit or it takes me forrrrrever to cum.

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Rejectedwoman · 03/04/2018 20:36

Also find even one or two drinks sort of blunts and numbs everything response wise so will keep away from the drink as much as I can

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