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AIBU?

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Children in changing room

32 replies

Orchidflower1 · 03/04/2018 11:59

Background before my AIBU - Was at a department store earlier. Being refurbished so fewer changing rooms. There were two unattended ie no staff just help yourself changing rooms for children only. Dd had one pair of jeans to try on. Both rooms occupied so we waited and waited. One has mum and her dd trying on bridesmaids dresses - she has 6 to try on. Other one has has mum and dd trying on swimwear. Swimwear girl comes out in 6 different swimsuits to show Aunty waiting outside then mum getting her changed. Other changing room a hand appears from behind cloth so not seen anyone. After 7th swimwear ( you’re only supposed to take 3 items in) I said toswimwear mum could dd quickly pop these jeans on- shoes off ready and will be very quick. Swimwear mum says very rudely “ no I’ve got things to do and - next door have been in longer” - I said “ well I haven’t seen them come in and out we’ll be quick she has shoes off ready” . Swimwear mum says you’re spoiling a nice experience. I said well your e only supposed to take three items in. At this point get dd came to stand by mirror to look at herself AGAIN. My dd was in front putting shoes back on. I made swimwear girl wait as I tied dd laces- can’t do them yet. Swim wear mum says “she only wants a look” I said “ well she only wants to pop these on I’m just tying laces”. I left the jeans at changing room and went to pay for coat. When paying I explained to cashier what has happened. So my AIBU is - was I cheeky to ask to try on? I suffer from GAD. So just going to shops is HUGE for me. Still shaking even now.

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 03/04/2018 12:54

I would have gone to the other changing room personally.

Orchidflower1 · 03/04/2018 13:11

Thanks for all your comments everyone. I’m working on being more assertive with my therapist to help with GAD but I think I picked the wrong time and place to work on it! Def going to try somewhere different as pp suggested - cake/ icecream parlor for next mummy/ dd outing. It’s always good to get feedback and now I can move on and think how I’d work on things differently next time. Thanks again everyone. I have mums net is like a big sister- there to support you when you need it but also to say hang on a minute when you need to address something! Enjoy the school holidays all those with dc at home; you’ll all be pleased to know that’s my shopping done for a while!

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 03/04/2018 13:17
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MrMeSeeks · 03/04/2018 13:58

Good for you op

OneStepSideways · 03/04/2018 15:19

I think you were rude to ask. I wouldn't vacate a changing room until I'd finished and I like to take my time deciding. I wouldn't move all my stuff out for your DD to pop in, for all I know she'd be ages.
It's annoying in a queue but you wait your turn or return later.

WineIsTheAnswer · 03/04/2018 15:41

What I don't understand is why if you want them to hurry for you, you then chose to slow them down by making her wait for the mirror. Unless you were being stubborn.

I would be very uncomfortable if someone had asked to use my cubicle, our stuff would be in it.

Also this could have been a special pre-holiday shopping trip, I can understand the lady saying you were ruining the experience.

All in all, I think you miss judged the situation. Assertiveness is a skill, hopefully it'll go better a different time, in a different situation.

eighteen18 · 03/04/2018 15:43

Very forward and cheeky.

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