To find birthdays hard? ( mostly my own))

[malificent7]

Kids birthdays are great...i love organising the party, the food is great..i like to see my dd have fun etc.

My own seems to be a massive trigger. It was a bit of a 'big' coming of age bday. I didnt want a massive fuss but my family cooked a meal for me and luckily there was a cool fancy dress party in town that i went to with dp and friends.

Sounds lovely and some if it was but in reality i got drunk on gin, cried as dp didnt get me a thoughtful gift..

Actually he did have a thoughtful gift which he gave me the the next day.

I felt under pressure to have an amazing day. I didn't know what gift i wanted from anyone anyone anyway.

Plus dd gets pissed off when it's my bday as the attention is on me and im getting gifts not her.

Of course when it comes to everyoneelse's birthday i either completely forget ( sorry sister) or struggle to find a suitable gift ( sorry dad)

Why am i a knob about it?

anyone?

Coming of age birthday? If you have a child old enough to be annoyed at you getting the attention, I presume you're 21 rather than 18. Why didn't your DP give you your present in your actually birthday rather than the day after?

The rest of it is all a bit odd, TBH.

I hate my birthday. I'm 38 now and have hated them since I was about 11. I never know what I want so people always buy me stuff I don't want and and I feel guilty and like I'm shit at looking suitable grateful.

I hate the attention, I hate people making a fuss, the entire concept makes me start fretting a good fortnight before the day. The day after my birthday is my favourite day of the year!

I have now managed to get everyone bar PIL and SIL to ignore it. My parents will buy me a book if they see one they know I'd definitely like otherwise ignore it as I request. My brother is so well trained he generally forgets entirely. DH will get me something we can do together, theatre tickets etc but booked for at least 2 months down the line so I don't associate it too much.

Now if I could just get PIL and SIL to ignore it too I could relax for a good few years until the DC start to care and I'll just have to deal with that.