Returning to work post maternity

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I'm returning to work in a few weeks after being on maternity for a year and a half. I got my return date back in January to return in May and will be straight into a two week training course which will be full time and there will be exams most days. I usually work Thursday-Sunday but I will have to work Monday to Friday for those two weeks I'm training which will have an effect on the children as they're not used to being in childcare for 5 days in a row (from 7:30 until 6 ) although the oldest will be in school the baby won't. When I got the letter I told my husband that I will be returning to work in May for two weeks full time and would really like his support whilst I study and can he make sure he's available and not traveling over those two weeks. He told me he had nothing in the diary. Tonight he announces he has to go traveling, flying out the day I return to work. He thinks iabu to be upset as it's his job and his job takes priority over mine. All I asked for was a little support in my job whilst I readjust to working again and someone who'd be there in the evening to help with bedtime so I can study. He was asked dates he couldn't travel which makes this worse imo. AIBU or not. He does earn more money than I but we cannot survive long term in his wages alone.

What a dick! He may earn more than you but this is your time back after a break away. And his job being 'more important' doesn't mean that he can just trounce all over your job plans when it suits him

YANBU. You've stayed at home and looked after your new born and have asked for some support as you readjust your life and new routine. What you need is support and not some child like "my job is better than your job" inane reaction. I'd tell him he's on child duty for those 2 weeks and he has to cancel his trip away. Like you had said before. He needs to show you some respect.

That's really really shitty of him. YANBU at all.

YANBU. How much of an arse he is depends on whether he is just told he has to travel somewhere on a certain date or whether he gets a say in when he goes. Either way I think he could have told his employer the situation and asked not to travel that week.

He's being a twat. Maybe he is being so arsey about it because he forgot and knows he has massively fucked up. Tell him that he messed up and not to take his frustration out on you.

Push right back on this

Thanks everyone still not better this morning. He plays football every Tuesday evening so I'm tempted to just be ready when he gets home from work to get changed for footie and go out with friends and say I forgot about football and this is more important than a silly game.

This is really awful on his part. You must be pretty nervous about going back too. My husband would never do this and would be absolutely furious if I did this to him.

Yes that's awful. You asked for his support when you adjust back.

Don't give in on this. There'll be someone else who can do the travel.

I'd tell him i'll have to pay someone else to look after the children in the evening, make their supper, put them to bed etc and that he'll have to pay out of his 'spends' money. He caused this by arranging a work trip (assuming he had the choice of when to go, as you say), so he can cover thee expense of filling in for himself.

Awful. So sorry you're married to such an unsupportive dick. Hope you manage to get some support in place to help you with your return.