Move away from support network to nicer area.

[Moominfan]

Recently single parent have the option to move to a much nicer rural area. Where I am it's rough but it's home. Have a lot of friends and family near by. Very recently started driving so I can visit easy enough but none of my family drive so it'll be up to me to visit them. Where I am now they can walk to mine to help with babysitting or visiting ect. I know I'm going to move just for the schools, if anything I'm hoping someone can share their similar experiences? I'm terrified that we'll be lonely where we move to.

Anyone?

I wouldn't move away from a support network in the situation you describe.

How rough is it?
In your shoes I'd likely stay to be near the help. Are they willing to provide support though?

Only you know if you're the sort of person who would be lonely, or if you'd relish the peace and quiet.

Will they still babysit if you do pick-ups and drop-offs?

Sorry i would stay where you are given the fact that none of them drive how would they pick your kids up and I assume our working what happens when 1 of your kids are not well and you have to go to work?. It may not be for ever this situation for you but at the moment with kids you will still need the love and support of your friends close by ,all the best hope it works out for you and your family .

How bad are the schools in your area?
DH and I considered it when DS was 2, decided against it as we thought the loss of support network wouldn't be worth it. It was definitely a good decision.

You also need to consider your commute and access to childcare while you're at work.

Only you really know what the right choice is.

In your situation I think I would chose to stay where I was for now. I'm not a single parent but do really appreciate my support network I have, and think if I was a single parent this would be more important.
Unless you are unhappy where you are or it's so rough you would have concerns about raising your children there, but I do think since nobody in your support network drive having them close could be a good idea.

Good luck with whatever you decide

How long is the drive? 30 mins, then yes. 2 hours? No

My neighbours are a mixed bag..one side are lovely the others I can't get away from quick enough. It's about 30min drive to work/nursery/fam ext so not to far but far enough they can't get to me. It's just nice having people come by not me just sat staring at 4 walls all the time once baby goes to bed.

Are you the sort of person who tends to make new friends easily? Will you have access to local babysitters/childminders? How rural is it? I think what is concerning PPs is that you say you are recently single so this seems like a bad time to isolate yourself and your children.

However, you can build a new support system if you are reasonably independent and resilient and prepared to make the effort.