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To say I love my MIL

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lalalalyra · 02/04/2018 14:15

I'm ill. Not dying unwell, but that grotty, feeling sorry for myself, sore sinuses and cold-but-not-flu type feeling.

MIL was over yesterday to see the kids and I was due to be making a roast for everyone today. Got a text last night saying "You're ill, I'll do the roast."

She arrived at 8 this morning, told me to go back to bed and took the kids out for the day (well, took the younger ones, sent the bigger ones) saying she'd feed them whilst out. I've just gone into the fridge for some lunch and there's a plated up mini-roast dinner with a post-it making clear (to her son who may or may not be back today) that it's for my lunch. There's also cake and custard for afters.

I love her. My parents were abusive, neglectful shits and I wish I'd had a Mum like her my whole life.

Bad in-laws get a lot of grief, but I don't think good ones get the praise they deserve.

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TurnipCake · 02/04/2018 14:28

What a fabulous lady! Sorry to hear you're feeling ill

My MIL is lovely, I could sit and chat with her for hours. I went NC with some toxic distant relatives a few years ago; being accepted into my husband's family with love made me realise just how awful other relatives had been

acornsandnuts · 02/04/2018 14:33

Aw lovely. My mum would do this for my SIL, not for me mind you.

Ickyockycocky · 02/04/2018 14:33

Lovely thread OP. I hope you're soon feeling better.

Planesmistakenforstars · 02/04/2018 14:35

I hope you feel better soon. What a wonderful thing to have done.

I love my MIL too. We live a flight away, so don't see each other often. She's one of the most wonderful people I know.

earlybirdhasanap · 02/04/2018 14:36

She sounds lovely. Enjoy your roast.

PookieSnackenberger · 02/04/2018 14:37

That's lovely. I also had a lovely MIL. We were very different people but I really respected her and how she raised her family.

I miss her. She looked after my children when they were little when I worked, was the life and soul of the party and everyone adored her. She had a terrible early childhood and was adopted. Family was everything to her and she loved her children and grandchildren so deeply.

Your MIL sounds wonderful. Get well soon!

user1493413286 · 02/04/2018 14:37

Mine is great; she also drives me crazy at times but that’s family as far as I’m concerned

SparkyTheCat · 02/04/2018 14:39

I like my MiL too. We have more in common than I do with my own DM. She doesn't interfere at all, in fact I'd be happy to see more of her!

Ilovecamping · 02/04/2018 14:39

I had a lovely MIL as well, she’d brought 9 children up and before the boys married she told them, your wife works just as hard as you, do your share in the home.

CantChoose · 02/04/2018 14:42

Mine is lovely too. She still has moments and habits that are infuriating. But I think you should find your family infuriating at times
She's lovely, careful not to interfere - sometimes too careful, it's hard to get an opinion out of her!
She's coming to our house two days this week to clean it ready for moving because i can't get the days off work. She's an angel!

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lalalalyra · 02/04/2018 14:50

It's so nice to hear nice MIL things :)

I'm incredibly lucky with MIL (and FIL before dementia took a hold of him). They were never shy with opinions, but not in a "I'd do this, that's what you should do" way, DH's family are all very much a "I'd do this, what are you going to do?" bunch.

MIL often says "Opinions are like arseholes - everyone has one, and every now and again you are going to think someone else's stinks..." which is very true (and quite funny because she never swears or uses remotely dodgy words so the word arsehole coming out of her mouth makes my inner childishness weep with laughter).

I hit it so lucky with her. And with OtherMIL as well. DH was widowed when we met and his MIL is still a big part of our lives. She's probably the woman I admire most in the world tbh. To have the strength to tell your grandson to call his step-mother "Mum" if that is what he wanted to do, when you must find it incredibly difficult because his Mummy was your daughter, is just awe-inspiring.

The roast was fab as well :)

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freakydeakydo · 02/04/2018 14:51

Mine drives me bonkers at times and we've had our moments but she is a good woman at heart. She is utterly great with my DS, her grandson and deep down (when she's doing my head in) I know I could do a lot worse!

moita · 02/04/2018 14:54

Lovely to read. My MIL has her moments but since having my DS she's actually hugely supportive, especially when I've had a first-time mum panic over something.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 02/04/2018 15:09

That's just lovely OP. Both MILs sound great.

ScreamingValenta · 02/04/2018 15:13

I too have a lovely MIL - we don't hear enough about the good ones!

Hope you're feeling better soon, OP.

ChanandlerBongsNeighbour · 02/04/2018 15:18

I love my MIL too!

One occasion I remember during a rough period in my relationship with my own mother, I was staying at in-laws house. MIL had recently had keyhole surgery related to bladder/womb prolapse but was up and about and active.

Whilst there I had terrible period pains and had to go to bed early, when I got up to bed, MIL had put a hot water bottle in my side of the bed (she knew I LOVED hot water bottles!) and as soon as I saw it I broke down in tears! The fact that my own mother couldn't be bothered to call or text me, even on my birthday yet my MIL was thinking of me even with her own myriad of health problems touched me so deeply.

whattheactualbleep · 02/04/2018 15:18

Love my mil too
She's totally in opinionated. You can say anything you like and it wouldn't shock her.
She's shy and quiet in a crowd but we have some great conversations when it's just a few of us.
She has a lovely relationship with my two dds and teaches them lots of things that my nan used to teach me.

I loved my grandparents growing up and my lovely mum lost both of hers young so her in laws were really her parents.

My dh and my parents also get on like a house on fire.
We are very lucky to have two great sets o parents and grandparents between us.

Dangerousmonkey · 02/04/2018 15:33

That's lovely. I don't think I know or he known anyone that thoughtful . Get well soon

Mydoghatesthebath · 02/04/2018 15:39

Well I filled my dils fridge and freezer while she gave birth, I babysit overnight and do childcare 2 days a week and help with the other days nursery fees. I always support her. preens oneself. She’s great to me too. A real friend

Lovely thread op. My mil was womderful too.

feska5 · 02/04/2018 15:47

What a great MIL and so lovely that you appreciate her help and support. That’s what family’s should be about. All pulling together and loving each other. My MIL was wonderful. She was so kind to me. Sadly, she died 29 years ago and unfortunately never met her three beautiful GD. Such a shame. She would have been so proud of them.

Accountant222 · 02/04/2018 16:01

Mine was lovely, sadly she's been gone about 25 years, she was much more of a proper Mother to me than my own mother. I loved and miss her greatly.

BreakWindandFire · 02/04/2018 16:02

I love mine too. When I lost my parents she said she's be a substitute mum, and is looking forward to coming to my graduation later this year.

Thistlebelle · 02/04/2018 16:02

How lovely. Hope you are feeling better soon!

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 02/04/2018 16:04

I love mine too. She's so sweet and thoughtful and has always treated me like another daughter.

Mydoghatesthebath · 02/04/2018 16:05

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