WIBU to cut DH’s cigarettes up?!

[LoopyLou1981]

Our youngest has just turned one. Since Christmas she has been to A&E four times and admitted to paediatrics twice with breathing difficulties. All 4 times it’s taken several nebulisers to get it under control.
DH doesn’t smoke a lot but will have a few if he’s drinking at the weekend. While he would never smoke in the house, he always ends up smoking below her bedroom window.
He won’t listen to my arguments about second hand smoke and, apparently, I’m nagging for the sake of it and using it as an excuse as I’ve wanted him to stop for ages (he promised to stop when I was pregnant the first time over 3 years ago but that’s a whole other thread!).
Surely if there was even a tiny risk that you were contributing to your daughter being repeatedly ill you’d stop?! He’s driving me nuts!!

How's your other child's health? Presumably they're being exposed to the same effects as the baby?

YANBU. And your husband sounds like a selfish prick in this scenario to me. I can't believe people are suggesting you're being controlling/unreasonable about this tbh!

Your baby has had 4 A&E visits, 2 of which ended up in hospital admissions in the last 3 months, because of breathing difficulties. And your husband continues to smoke outside her bedroom window?! Absolute prick.

"Surely if there was even a tiny risk that you were contributing to your daughter being repeatedly ill you’d stop?!"
I think he should yes OP! Totally get where you're coming from, good luck!

This is a sensitive subject for me because my mother's had life threatening pneumonia on more than one occasion and some family members still can't be bothered to take their cigarettes and vapes outside, even when her eyes are watering and she's wheezy as hell. She's in her 70s and can tell them its bothering her (not that they listen) - a tiny baby can't say anything.

When your lungs are seriously compromised/irritated you need zero smoke anywhere near you. It's pure selfishness not to go outside for a fix. Obviously it's unlikely he caused it but it won't be helping, and its something easy to remedy - just go properly outside! YANBU.

No you're absolutely right. Even particles on clothing can affect children, especially those who already have respiratory problems.

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/children/4126202/Parents-who-smoke-only-in-garden-may-still-harm-children-doctors-warn.html