Ok so this is a long one. Kudos if you get to the end.
My mum was a chronic alcoholic and as a result I was very very close to her sister (my aunt) I began to notice I was the only one making contact, she only ever called me uf she wanted to moan/bitch about her DH or her 3 DD. On 14th March last year I rang her to ask a few questions about a particular matter concerning one of her DH’s. Her reply was ‘I don’t know but I’ll find out and call you back’. So I waited for her to call back. 1-2 weeks passed, no call. So I decided to wait and see when she would call and that I was not going to call her (I work full time, she doesn’t work at all) Thus went on for weeks (and yes I dug my heels in and didn’t call) I fell pregnant with our miracle baby (17 years of trying) and my nana (her mum told her) Got a really cheeky message from her about how she couldn’t believe I hadn’t reached out to her and if I wanted to ostracise myself from the famiky that was fine etc etc). Her wee dog had to be put to sleep. I messaged saying hiw sorry I was abd she myst be devastated etc. The anniversary if my mums death came round, no word. I had to get my little dof put to slerp, no word. I turned 40, no word nit even a card. My DS was born early Dec, no word but she has told all the rest of the family hiw hust she is, how horrible I’vd been etc so none of family now talk to me (except my nana) and none of them have acknowledged my DS. My nana now wants to have a ceremony for the burial if my mums ashes and I would rather eat bee’s. AIBU as to not wanting to go and should I have done something different re my Aunt. A large part if me thinks fuck the lit of them and let them jog on.