AIBU to not like unexpected visitors

[Chaosandchocolate]

I'm sure this has been done before but right now im torn between an early night and tackling mess.

Twice, a couple of years apart, I've had family turn up on my doorstep...."surprise!".

They live in a different country so this is a big deal. On one occasion house was an utter mess, one child playing in underwear, one in nappy mid breastfeeding. I hadn't showered/dressed... You get the drift.

The most annoying thing was that with a bit of notice I would have loved to see them but as it was I didn't enjoy the visit at all.

Another visit I was unable to spend time with the person because of other plans.

Rant over. Do i take the risk of a lazy evening.
AIBU to not be delighted by such surprises?! I think I hurt feelings in the past.

Well my grandparents, parents and my generation all adapted to the change in technology and expectations and manners.

@vodka's neighbour is especially rude I'd be telling them in no uncertain terms to get out of my house and not to ignore me when I'm saying it's not convenient and actually in future be more considerate!

It's the doorsteppers that need to change not the people feeling harassed even bullied into letting unwanted people in their homes.

I hate people visiting without so much as a text for warning too. Mainly because our house is tiny & I need notice to tidy up rather than not wanting visitors. Unfortunately MIL tends to do this, (but thankfully rarely) & its really awkward because we're NC with her & DH's siblings & she has no respect so turns up with SIL who has told her loads of lies about me. They don't like me because I took their meal ticket & he suddenly stood up for himself & refused to continue funding MIL's lavish holidays. MIL stirred the pot by siding with BIL & SIL & believing the lies they spread about me. Its at the stage now where I don't want her in the house to be disrespected.

It has nothing to do with mobile phones, it's always been a clueless move to turn up on someone's doorstep unannounced.

My mother used to say "if I'd known you were coming I'd have baked a cake" (which I think was either a song or from a film) but was basically a PA way of saying "you've dropped by unannounced so you can have a cup of tea and F off!"

I hate, hate unexpected visitors and you will go down many points in my estimation if you darken my doorstep without notice. Especially if I have 2 in nappies including a refluxy baby who just had their vaccinations