AIBU To Expect a Bit of Sensitivity?

[Fuzzyduck0]

I'm prepared to be told I'm being oversensitive because of the timing and my personal circumstances but I'm not happy

We got a call in the early hours from the hospital to say my mother is dying and to come immediately. For the last 40 hours myself, my daughter and my brother have been at her bedside for 8 - 12 hours each at a time.

Today my daughter (20s) was there alone and my mother had been without fluids for 9 hours due to a canula being removed when it shouldn't have been. She's nil by mouth so bar moisten her mouth, we couldn't give her anything ourselves. There was only 1 Dr between 7 wards and he was the one to put the canula in as it couldn't be in her arms so my daughter was on high alert for when he came in again.

One of the workers, when my daughter asked about the Dr, decided it was appropriate to say 'Why do you think he's hot?'. My daughter was stunned and said no, as long as he's a good Dr, that is all she cares about and went to sit with my mother. Is it me or WTAF is someone working in the health care profession thinking saying that to someone who is clinging to her dying grandmother?

I have bigger fish to fry so won't be complaining or anything. I'm just dumbfounded at the lack of thought/sense to say such a bizarre thing

That was highly inappropriate! Just goes to show they weren't taking your daughter seriously at all.

Amazing how insensitive some people can be in these circumstances.

I think it’s incredibly inappropriate and childish. I would report it. I’m so sorry about your Mum OP.

It wasn't some young just qualified/started person either, it was a woman in their - approx - 50s at least

I'd complain to the ward manager. Totally inappropriate. I'm a nurse and there is no way this kind of comment should ever be made let alone at such a stressful time. Totally unprofessional.

According to some nurses I know (who appear to loathe half of their own colleagues) this sprt of shit is what contributed to the bursary being revoked. So they end up with nursing staff who actually want to be nurses, rather than a number who go in to it half arsed and with no compassion because it was subsidised and an 'NHS' job for life. Having witnessed the attitudes of several (maybe 20?) Healthcare teams over the past 2 years I think I agree with them.

It wasn't a nurse, it was whatever a step up from a Phlebotomist is that can do a little more. In any other circumstances my daughter would be the first to ask her what the hell is wrong with her saying such a thing. It makes it worse that we don't have the energy between us

Would they actually take me seriously if I do mention it? I've complained about way worse and nothing seems to change (though the staff on today bar that woman were very good and trying their best)

If the ward manager is any good then yes they would. I'd speak face to face though.

We're staying here till whenever we have to so maybe I'll mention it. It just seems such a bizarre jump to that from 'where is the dr?'...in a hospital...when we were desperate for a Dr