Birthday party invitation

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Would it be unreasonable to give out invitations for 4th birthday party two months in advance? We've never had a party that has required invitations at nursery etc before so don't know the drill. We are also about to move house so u thought that it may be easier to do it early. Or us that far too early?

You can but dont expect people to RVSP immediately, I have no idea what my 4 year old is doing in 2 months time.

I'd be happy with one that early. The earlier people are, the easier it is to plan.

Then again, I always RSVP asap too, so I'm probably weird ;)

The danger is that no one will RSVP because it’s too early, or because they think there’s no rush.

3-4 weeks is more usual for a party.

I couldn’t answer 2 months in advance!

Completely standard round here.

I think it's too early.
3-4 weeks would be better I think.

Why couldn't you answer 2 months in advance? If you haven't got something planned then surely you're free? I have a social engagement for myself pencilled in for the end of June.

I would answer that early, and plan around it once I had it in my diary. I get stressed with not enough notice!

I would wait until you have moved. Two months in advance is very early, and people either won't RSVP (to be fair, they probably won't whenever you ask them!) or will say yes, then forget and not turn up anyway.

Way too early. I always rsvp but I may forget if it's that far ahead. 4 wks is plenty

Fine with me and I would reply quickly too.

Too early for pre school families and people tend to forget if they get a very early invitation. Better to send it 3/4 weeks before the party. You could send a save the date text with a line saying invitations will be sent out in due course. I've had two texts for birthday parties in June but the invitation cards will be sent out later.

I would answer straight away and if I said we'd be there we'd be there no matter what other/better offers came up. Unfortunately not everyone is like me and I suspect most would wait to see what else came up and then forget to reply.

Don't people have calendars? You look at it, check whether anything is happening on the date, if not you add the party to the calendar and that way you don't forget it later on!! It's not rocket science.

I wouldn't be able to commit that far in advance, the danger is people might lose the invite or forget because it's so far in advance.

I’ve given out 12 invitations two weeks ago and only had 5 replies for a party in 3 weeks . I usually reply straight away but I think it’s too early for a lot of people .

I'd say on the early side. Too much chance of a subsequent arrangement coming up. Realisticly, rushing to affect the whole day/ weekend for a two hour window, particularly if it's not a close friend of the child may not be a high priority to a busy family as it only benefits one family member, so they may RSVP quite late or forget. More so if there's been a spate of parties so less novelty value.

One month is fairly usual. Enough notice to have a clear idea of where you stand. Venues tend to want numbers around one week to go.

Some parents may also not know things like shift patterns two months in advance.

Our work rosters are a 6 weeks in advance so I'd let you know in a couple of weeks.

I think 4-6 weeks generally works well.

6 weeks is the earliest I'd do it, 4 weeks better.

I think I'd be more inclined to leave it late rather than start early and lose your internet / paperwork halfway through collecting replies. Though if it's all done on text there shouldn't be an issue.

It depends on the friends. I just received an invitation for a reception child's birthday in June and most parents are very glad of the warning. RSVP not due until next month anyway, but at least parents can start planning.

4 weeks is too little notice.