To wonder if this can ever work

[ClownPockets]

Step families I mean.

Both of us have children from previous relationships. We've lived together 2 years. I find his kids hard work and he finds mine hard too. This causes a good deal of frustration betwen us both.But we do genuinely love each other and are best mates.

We aren't rich, I have a range of health problems and our exes can be difficult.

AI really BU to think we can have a future together?

Funny there is no mention of any of the children feel or act or get on with each other or the step parents.

Yes of course it can work. Even 'related' siblings don't get on sometimes. I could have cheerfully throttled my little shit of a brother, and my twat of a sister when we were kids, and our parents despaired sometimes, and we were hard work at times!

But we got on well other times too, and had great Christmases and holidays, and are close now.

At least give it a go eh?

Lots of patience and tolerance is needed. Especially with health issues and PITA exes.

Good luck!

i guess it depends on what the children think and what the set up is

do you discipline his children and him yours??

do you agree on how you parent??

who lives with who??

First reply is having a dig...well I wasn't expecting that...

I just summarised our history. We both have our kids' best interests at the top of our priorities and I think part of the issue is that neither of us want to do anything to upset our children.

Mine live with us full time. His are here two nights a week. Mine get on really well with OH. His are warming to me but they struggle being away from their mum.

We both talk all the time. We agree on our parenting strategies and usually try and leave the disciplining to the parent of the child. But the rules are the same for them all.

Thanks for the positive replies too

It's not having a dig, its pointing out that you didn't even think to mention the most (perhaps only) important information that you need to ask your bloody question.

FFS [hmm

answer not ask, obvs.

Only 2 nights a week is hard. Try family meetings, make sure everyone is on the same page, reassure everyone that you love them and want to be a family. We always say we're a team, and a team works together.

sounds pretty good in general

maybe his are feeling abit put out as yours live with their dad,cant be helped but maybe that might be the case