I am wondering if IABU or if DP is.
Today, DP and I bought a new (cheap) computer desk to replace one that has been falling apart. DP spent the better part of the night putting it together (right in the middle of the living room). By the time he is done it is almost midnight and we were all getting tired.
I spent the time he was putting the new desk together, trying to go thru and clean out the papers and junk in and on the old desk. While doing this I also was yelling at the DC (17/18 girl and boy) to be quiet as they were in the other room being loud playing the wii u. Trying to talk on the phone to my mother who insisted on calling more than once an hour (trying to help with wedding plans, but that is a whole other AIBU).
I should say that the new desk is in our living room for the family computer.
When all is said and done DP decides that old desk should just be put in the middle of our office/spare bedroom for the next few days. Before he could even walk into the office I tell him that with all the junk that has been shoved in there that "we will get to later" there is no room in there.
He storms to the room opens the door and then it slams shut. He stomps back to the living room and tells me that the DC need to clean up the spare room/office. He says that it is their mess because they slept in there on Thursday night (no school on Friday for them). The DC slept in that room because our daughters room is right next to our bedroom and we can hear through the walls. They stayed up watching movies on the laptop and they chose the extra room so as not to keep us awake with the noise.
The only mess the DC made was the bed unmade and a few socks on the floor from hot feet. DP got really upset at this saying how "we" (he and I) are the only ones who clean and the DC need to learn to help around the house.
Before I had said anything, DP then drug the old desk out the back door and went off to take a shower.
DP thinks that "we" clean. He doesn't realize that in the last week then only cleaning that got done was when I did the laundry, and folded it. When I washed the dishes each night, or begged one of the DC to do it.
DD cleaned the bathroom just a few days ago. DS cleaned up the kitchen last night after getting home from a movie.
DP "cleaned" the kitchen last weekend. Since then it has been cleaned at least once more, with dishes done each night. And he helped fold laundry one day.
Would I bu to tell him what I think of all the cleaning he does? Was I unreasonable when I told him that the DC weren't the ones who made the mess in the room? I know they didn't as I made it when I got the sewing machine out last week and it is still sitting on the office desk; thread, needles and fabric still all over it.
I am so sorry if this is confusing. I don't think I got my thoughts out right, but I didn't want to drip feed.