Aibu about doing friends hair

[Happybunny1994]

Friend asked if I could curl and pin her hair on Saturday. I said that was fine and to come over in the morning. I’ve since found out I have to work so said to come over before work at ten. Now thinking about it it’s going to be such a tight squeeze and she’s normally one to bail. I just don’t want to set up and her not to turn up. Aibu to offer her my clips and curling wand and say I can’t do it. I don’t want to let her down I’ve also not been sleeping well have a cold and don’t feel like getting up at 7.30 on my weekend. I’m happy to be told ibu about letting her down last minute. She said she would also drop me at work after but I have a feeling she will cancel

I wouldnt cancel; your time has come and gone for that. However I would text something like

"Hi X, just a reminder about tomorrow, if you could be here for 10 at the latest with me having to work, as I wont be able to hang on any later. See you tomorrow x"

Don't agree to things you don't want to do.

What do you need to set up? Curling tongs & pins?

Too late to cancel now she won't have time to arrange somewhere else. I would do as NapQueen says and let her know that if she's late by even 5 minutes you won't be able to do it.

It's a hair do - why would you want to let your friend down?
Hardly an abseil you have signed up to....

It would be a bitean to cancel now but a quick text as a PP said just reminding her not to be late would be fine.

yabu to cancel so close. As said above, text to remind her and mention that you have to leave at exactly x time

I’m a bit confused. She asked you on Saturday or she’s coming on Saturday? As in today?

10 in the morning or the evening?

Puppy today is Friday ...

Oh yes, it makes so much more sense now.

Bloody bank holidays

She asked me this morning about coming over Saturday. I found out about work this afternoon.

Will text her now and remind her not to be late

No that's mean. I would not cancel on her. Send a gentle reminder tonight. If she lets you down don't agree to do it again.

Text her something like "I've realised I'm going to be pushed for time tomorrow, can you make sure you are at mine for 9:30am at the latest so I've got time to do your hair before I have to leave for work? Thanks!"

If she can't make that or be arsed to be with you at that time, she'll cancel.

At 8 she texted to say she was awake no news since and I feel like she’s gone back to bed.

Text her again!
Tell her that you need to leave for work at X if she is giving you a lift or X if she 'can't make it'.

At 8 she texted to say she was awake no news since and I feel like she’s gone back to bed

What news could there possibly be? Are you expecting texts to let you know that she is eating her breakfast? That she's in the shower?

You need to chill about this a bit. If she arrives by 10am you do her hair like you agreed. If she arrives after 10am you remind her that you told her that you have to work and that you wouldn't be able to do it if she was late. Stop worrying about what she's doing in the interim

Ok she was only ten mins late was a Fiat always bails always hours late. So I’m impressed.

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You’re more forgiving than me in these circumstances 10 mins late would’ve meant me showing her the door!