AIBU to let my friends down so regularly

[Prusik]

Be gentle, I feel like shit as it is. Yet another days plans ruined by ds1's nap routine. Arranged to meet a friend this morning. Ds ended up having a lie in and napping when we were due to meet up. Arranged for this afternoon but now ds2 is on a cluster feed session.

I hate being so dictated to by ds1's naps. He is a little tyrant when it comes to sleep and will scream blue murder until he gets into his cot.

Ds1 is 14 months, ds2 ten weeks (but came three weeks early so is only just getting out of newborn stage).

I really try to live my life but the prospect of leaving the house right this minute....another friend let down.

Be kind to yourself, It must be tough with 2 young children, I find it difficult to get out the house with just 1 sometimes.

It is a bit unfair on your friends, especially as they have a young child as well. Instead of putting pressure on yourself and having to cancel it may be best just to have people come to you for now. You can still live your life, but in a slightly different way.

It's hard and it's a phase, it gets better!

My sister said I used my kids as an excuse for not doing things and got aggro about it, I had twins and shit changes. Now she has twins she gets it.

Your friends will understand (including the ones that don't have children), but tell them the truth. Tell them it matters to you and you're worried that they'll give up on you. Don't leave them wondering whether you're just using the baby as an excuse because you can't be bothered with them any more.

Op my two were 16 months apart so l know where you are coming from, and my DD would only nap in her cot in a dark room.

I followed the Gina Ford routine in the day and it worked like clockwork for both mine, they slept at exactly the same times each day.

The most important bit is to start the day at 7.30am, if they don't wake then wake them, then they will be ready for their next sleep at the same time each day...it means you CAN make plans to go out knowing you will not have a cratchety tired baby.

Try reading the book, it may really help.