AIBU to hate him and what to tell him so

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A few months ago an ex popped into my life after a very long time. I was at a point where I was happy enough with being single and just me and dc. We been seeing each other and seemed to be going well. I'm aware ex has a few problems and stressed and is having to jump through hoops to see his own kids. Anyway it been 3 weeks and I've not heard a peep. I'm normally the sort off person who would just let things go and not say anything however I feel I deserve to tell him i hate him and that he's a C U Next Tuesday. Sounds petty I know, but ive been sat here feeling really hurt and wondering of ive done something or over thinking things and tbh I could have done without that. If he needed space to sort things out then he could have said then I know where I'm at.

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Well, is there some reason that you can't ring him?

Assuming that you do speak, is 'I hate you and CU' the way to go if it's been going well? What's wrong with 'ive been sat here feeling really hurt and I could have done without that. If he needed space to sort things out then he could have said then I know where I'm at'?

I wouldn't be at all happy with no contact for 3 weeks but I would ask the question first if I would be looking to keep the relationship going. If you don't want or don't see a future, then crack on with the dumping.

It all depends what you want to get out of the conversation - an explanation and a resetting of expectations, or a row and a drama.

For me personally, I would neither offer nor accept 'you've done something and/or you're overthinking it' but we're all different.

He's an ex. Exes are exes for a reason. Try to remember why he was your ex to start with.

No I could ring or try ringing. I've not really chased him as I know there lots going on with not getting to see his kids unless it very last min among other things. I suppose reading it in black and white it does seem a bit unreasonable and ott. If we actually speak again I will wait for an explanation and apology and base my reaction on that instead of over thinking it.

Ringing isn't chasing if you are in an equal relationship - but it does seem as if he is driving things. Maybe your enforced break is a good opportunity to think about what you want and whether t here is a space for him in that.

Sounds a bit juvenile TBH. Have an honest conversation with him. Or don't. But don't do the foot-stampy 'I hate you!' thing. That's just lame.

Have you even tried to ring or text him?

It sounds to me like there was a very good reason why he was an ex, this is very rude of him OP . Let him bgr off . Waste of space.

So because he hasn’t contacted you he’s in the wrong even though you have done exactly the same thing?

The mind boggles!

You hate him? Massive over reaction and quite dramatic!

Hormones perhaps