To want to cry at about all the years that have flown by?

[Chairmancow]

Watching Brit pop on BBC, just got a rush of nostalgia that nearly floored me. All those years gone in a flash. I’m nearly 40.
Can’t help wishing i’d made the most of it! They say youth is wasted on the young. All the things I didn’t do that I should have done. All very depressing. And I’ve not even had wine tonight!!

I'm surprised myself I'm 40 but I definitely enjoyed my youth. Maybe too much. I sometimes wish I'd had my dc younger but I've really had an amazing time

I think having dc accelerates life, you're so focused on their milestones that when one of yours pops up it's a bit shocking.

I'm 40. I regret not being more careful with money. I did some fun travelling but built up debts. If I'd concentrated on buying a property instead when I was in my 20s, then I could have bought before prices sky rocketed and I'd be in a much better financial position now. I kick myself every day. I wish I'd started a pension sooner too.

I managed to find a good balance of both partying and studying though!

I wish I'd slept with less men

MsGame I With you on the looking better than I thought I did. I was showing my dh a couple of photos of me in my 20s tiny frame, lovely pale skin and thicker hair,and he said you were lovely, why were you so shy and self conscious? Probably because I had zero confidence then!

Watched an "old" TOFP's the other night. It was from 1985, the year I got married. Didn't even remember the top ten...

And in 10 or 15 years time you will be wishing you could go back to now and make the most of it. NOW is your time! It will never come again. Make the most of it!!

Yep. Couldn't agree more. I'm 51 tomorrow and wish I could go back to 40. Back years of my life, my forties.

*Best not back!

Britpop's what young people listen to, isn't it? Give me post punk and New Wave anyday.

The time to start wailing about your wasted life is when you're hunched in a chair in a nursing home. Before that, if you haven't done it, you want to do it, you can afford it, and it's not illegal, then do it. We're planning a Grand Tour of Europe next summer, travelling and sleeping on night trains, and visiting as many countries as we can in three weeks. I can't wait.

It's very good to want cry as the flying years IF it galvanises you to appreciate your day today and to make the most of the present. It is a gift - the present.
If you just get maudlin and do nothing, well it's a waste and more fool you.
40 is your prime. Enjoy. You don't have many sensible alternatives.

I’m 37 and up with a new baby for first feed of the night. I slightly regret taking such a long time to do most things, but a) I couldn’t imagine I would have done it any other way and b) I have a nice life on my terms.

Most of my regrets are over not cutting losses with various unsuitable partners... but I just had to do it the hard way and learn through doing!

Me too!

I regret being so shy, I was never 100% "me" cos wanted to seem cool, I regret smoking for 20 years, and I was bright but applied for the lowest paid dead-end jobs cos I felt it was all I could do.

Trouble is most of the above still applies now, except I kicked the nicotine.

FlaminYon I wish l had slept with men who had been a bit more skilled at it.

And I wish I had been a bit more forceful about walking away from men who weren't work it.

worth it

Anti I did a lot of travelling, arrived in London with a backpack and enough money for 8 weeks rent in a hostel in 2009. We bought in a ahem less than lovely area of SW London in 2011 and have done ok.

It's possible to live large and not end up in debt.

I was mortified that dh travelled by taking out a loan. First thing I did was pay off his loan and save for our next adventure. But it seems it was very common to travel via debt on the side of the world back then.

I regret turning down a threesome with Robbie Williams and Noel Gallagher

Although some were worth it. Plus the alcohol and rock n roll was well worth it. So few regrets on balance.

Crikey!I don't.

That said, the 90s. Such great fun. Such great music.

Nope. Sixties and Eighties:)

JB Now mid 60's and its not all bad either:!

The more things change, the more they stay the same.

The young are still shit at enjoying life.
In 2018 all the girls are now plastered in make ip from 14 onwards. The boys only communicate through headsets.
Despite what Google tries to tell them , neither sex listen to to Google and still think shagging the popular boy/ girl is kudos and that weed will make life more fun.
Despite a guzillion generations trying to say that being your own person is the only way to happiness. Nah....following the crowd and then being confused that you aren't "the crowd" is still the only way to be a teen.

Mabantomoonface I bet there were sound reasons to turn that down

I look up old nostalgic things all the time!
I am 30 and I feel like nobody reaches 30 feeling as though they've achieved enough! I have travelled a bit but not near as much as I wish I had. None of my friends the same age are totally satisfied with how their 20's panned out either!

"I regret turning down a threesome with Robbie Williams and Noel Gallagher"

Quite right. Best to leave the pair of them to it.

I am 38 and was a bit of a wild child in my late teens and early twenties. Do I regret all the partying/getting pissed /taking drugs? Not for a minute! If you can't do it it then when can you enjoy it?

too true Oops!