Why do men call women Mrs??

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My friend is here for a wine and a catch up and she’s texting this guy she met off tinder. He keeps calling her Mrs and it’s starting to grate on her.

“You ok Mrs?”
“What You up to then Mrs?”
“Are you free to FaceTime Mrs?”

Etc.
She made a point of saying “my name is X btw”

But he doesn’t seem to have cottoned on.

Aibu in thinking it’s total wank?
I’d have told him to fuck off by now.

I call my DD missus too. My mum (mam - I'm from the north east) used to call me that when I was younger. It's a term of endearment in that sense.
However, someone you're dating calling you that sounds odd and rather presumptuous as it suggests the other meaning of missus i.e. being married to them.

Yorkshire here Mrs is fairly normal and I call men Mr!

Where I live women call each other Missus equally as often as men do. It's not seen in any way rude or dismissive.

Same here, and Mr for men and boys. It's just a turn of phrase. I seem to live in a little pocket where you can use any of these names with friendly intentions and everyone happily accepts them. Long may I stay here, it's a nice way to converse imo.

Regional dialect is one thing, but if he keeps doing it and your friend finds it irritating he should stop.

Fine as a dialect thing but for dating it sounds a bit condescending and disrespectful. I would t call someone Mister all the time.

I'd be more pissed of with a guy texting me when he knew I was busy with a friend tbh

I call my friends missus as a term of endearment.

Thinking about it, I do also use mister... It might be an Irish thing..? Or maybe just me !

Mister/missus seen as friendly here amongst my friends and I too (West of Scotland) but then calling each other bawbag is also affectionate.

I call my dcs cabbage/ wombat / heartscald / sausage, depending.

I call most mates missus...

At least he’s not calling your friend “baby”- that, I’d find weird.

I honestly don't get these threads. Surely there's context, purpose and the type of person. I work with the most polite person on the planet but every sentence ends in man. Doesn't bother me.

He's not got very good conversational skills has he?? I wouldn't date anyone who couldn't converse in a more engaging way than that. He sounds a little immature and not very articulate

Are you always so insular and parochial or are you just being a GF?

I think it’s probably just a regional thing, and it’s used by women to other women as well.

She’s asked him to stop so I guess we’ll see.
I would hate it. But then, round here if someone calls you “love” then you know you’re about to get into a fight. And I know “love” is normal elsewhere.

Mrs just makes me think of what you might call a little girl, not someone you want to shag.

mrs etc may be ok as dialect pleasantries IRL, but I think I'd find them pretty odd if used repeatedly in texts or any other written communication.

Meh round here people get called cock , love , lovely sometimes Mrs.

I use Mr too!

@shortandannoying I call my dog Mrs sometimes, not sure why as she is technically a Miss. It's an honorary Mrs

I think that's well sexist, she should be addressed as Ms 😂

Normal where I am too (Ireland).

Is he Irish? Anyone female gets called Mrs by me, even my dds’ friends who think it’s hilarious. It’s not a conscious thing, just a habit.

It's a bit weird on tinder! But if a stranger said it, say in a shop or if they were doing a job for you etc. it would seem normal.

Oh I might call dd Mrs and d's Mr too! Even though I'm a Ms myself.

Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 here.

We’d say Mr/Mrs in general conversation. Hey Mr/Mrs how’s you?

We’d also say girl/boy. Was talking to the girl/boy down the pub.

Sometimes I think these “offensive” terms are causing offenders too easily. If we stopped losing reginal dialect we’d all sound the same. Also when things are offensive it’s taken less seriously.

In Scotland a strange man saying “Cheer up Mrs” would piss me off, but not because of the Mrs iyswim

If she's managed to find a decentish looking/sounding guy on tinder, who doesn't have a photo of him:

1. stroking a sedated tiger
2. at his own wedding
3. of a terrible, terrible tattoo

PLUS, he doesn't have an inspirational quote in his bio, I wouldn't get too pedantic about his colloquialisms tbh

I met my boyfriend on tinder, he is a lovely guy and everyday I'm thankful that I swiped right and agreed to go on a date with him even after I realised he spelt what as 'wot'

He also calls me Mrs!

I use Mrs/Mr all the time . I'm in Scotland too though. At least it's not honey/babe