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To give my DS baby jar food??

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HeadOverMills · 29/03/2018 12:14

He's 12 months and can handle "normal food" now....however he won't eat it. Will actually take it out of his mouth.

He will only eat jarred from the shop, with a dessert (fruit purée) mixed in.

Do I just go with it??

OP posts:

CrampItUp · 29/03/2018 12:49

Really YourWanMajella one of mine didn't eat for a couple of days once, when he got hungry he did.

BrutusMcDogface · 29/03/2018 12:51

I don't think it's ok to give a one year old jars mixed with sweet fruit at every meal, and am surprised at people saying it is!

Could you maybe substitute one meal for finger food to start with? Just to wean him onto "proper" food? Nothing against jar food per se, but I think the longer he gets used to it the worse it'll be to move onto other food? Especially if it's mixed with fruit.

Shufflebumnessie · 29/03/2018 12:53

I'd just do whatever you need to. I absolutely hate weaning so regardless of what other may think I've always done whatever means I kept my sanity!!
Just out of interest, do you eat at the same time as your son? If not, it might help him to see you eating a variety of things (so he realises that the good stuff doesn't just come in a jar )

IAmMatty · 29/03/2018 12:58

Sounds like he's decided that sweet stuff is much more fun

Could you slowly reduce the amount of fruit puree you mix in?

YourWanMajella · 29/03/2018 12:59

Really YourWanMajella one of mine didn't eat for a couple of days once, when he got hungry he did

Oh he did? Well then I guess my experience and that of lots of others didn't happen then.

LockedOutOfMN · 29/03/2018 12:59

Can you add other foods to the jars?

If you have a food processor, you could try blitzing other foods and putting them in the washed out jars?

As other posters have said, don't worry, he's only little and will develop other tastes over time.

TheLadyhasarrived · 29/03/2018 13:01

Amen YourWan I have a ds that will absolutely starve himself too.

yumyumpoppycat · 29/03/2018 13:07

agree with others keep offering the normal food - sit of the sofa next to him and eat from your own plate and maybe don't offer but let him take some if he wants. keep trying normal food but at the same time don't get stressed/ worried, its normal for babies to like sweeter food

Mummyoflittledragon · 29/03/2018 13:13

My dd was exactly the same as this. Not about food in jars. But variety of food. She went through phases where she’d only eat certain foods. She had a toast phase and a Greek yoghurt phase for example where they were almost the only thing she’d eat. I used to spread other ingredients on the toast and mix them in the Greek yoghurt - a little bit of bolognese sauce etc. I could get away with it as long as Greek yoghurt was the main ingredient. She was also a massive food thrower. One item in 4 went in her mouth. And she wouldn’t eat anything hadd bar toast until 2.5.

Dd is now 9. It took a lot of effort to get her eating a balanced diet. She’s not very adventurous. But it’s fine. The thing that helped with her eating is that I breastfed so she needed to eat for nutrition whereas by the sound of it you’re bottle feeding and can therefore substitute with milk. So do try to persevere. It will get easier and one day you’ll look back with nostalgia.

Bottom line, your ds will get there in the end. He’s only ever so little right now.

CrampItUp · 29/03/2018 13:35

Oh he did? Well then I guess my experience and that of lots of others didn't happen then.

I know this is mumsnet but I wasn't being funny. It was a genuine question.

CrampItUp · 29/03/2018 13:37

and yes he did. I've really never known anyones little kid to starve themselves.

YourWanMajella · 29/03/2018 13:39

and yes he did. I've really never known anyones little kid to starve themselves

Wow you haven't? Gosh, you should have told me that when my child was hospitalised and had to be fed by a tube. If only you'd have said that I was clearly hallucinating, would have been so much help!

Alternatively there is a tiny chance that things happen even though you personally haven't seen them, do you think?

Steeley113 · 29/03/2018 13:43

Gosh, you are letting him rule the roost! Just stop the jars and offer food. A few days and he will eat.

TheLadyhasarrived · 29/03/2018 13:46

I have a DS who will only eat a limited diet, there are reasons, and he would starve himself if I didn’t supply the limited food he will eat.
Also drinks, people say only provide water and they will drink that. DS wouldn’t, he would just dry up and, well, die.
All the extremely well qualified people we have consulted have said that yes children do do this.
(Not meaning this to come across anyway other than answering the question you asked btw! I know tone can get a bit lost in writing)

TrappedWind · 29/03/2018 13:49

Urgh try not to sweat it too much, just find the best/healthiest brand you can.

I'm sure baby food isn't as bad as it was 20/30 yrs ago....

Another option, fill a jar with your own purée and see if he'll eat it!

Pseudousername · 29/03/2018 13:53

I would probably offer him some finger foods along with the jar and gradually reduce the amount of puree I was mixing in. He'll get there eventually, no point beating yourself up or getting into mealtime battles with him while he's so little OP. Good luck!

x2boys · 29/03/2018 13:55

I also have a child with a very limited diet (severe autism and learning disabilities) i keep the stuff he will eat in otherwise he would starve himself he will drink water now but he didn't used to .

Mightymucks · 29/03/2018 13:56

As others have suggested try putting your own stuff in the jar. Plus offer him some solid stuff on his tray but just leave it there for him to explore rather than pushing it on him. Breads sticks and a little cheese or a few strawberries or bits of banana. He might just throw them around to start off with but eventually his curiosity will get the better of him.

Just leave them rather than giving though, otherwise it turns into a battle of wills. If he doesn’t eat just clear away without comment.

NerrSnerr · 29/03/2018 13:57

I wish people would stop saying that! A child can and will starve themselves, I've been there, it happens.

I have a very small one year old. Given the choice he would not have solid food and he'd just have breast milk. His weaning was massively delayed by being unwell and vomiting after every meal. He will now happily eat very smooth baby food and is getting used to textures of solid food but the majority of that has been spat out. In our situation we don't have the luxury of saying 'only give solid food and he'll eat it in the end'. His weight is already precarious and he starts nursery soon where he is bound to pick up more bugs where he'll be in danger of losing even more. The professionals agree and say get whatever you can into him.

It'd be lovely to have a baby who was eating a 3 course meal at 7 months but not all babies are the same. I wish things wouldn't be spouted as fact on these threads as there are so many different variables.

NKFell · 29/03/2018 13:59

Crikey yourwan she already said it was a genuine question. MN can be so confrontational!

OP I personally wouldn't worry, with things like this I always think how I've never heard of a 15 yr old saying "nah mate, no chips for me- I only do jars".

Kahlua4me · 29/03/2018 14:13

Ha ha NKFell, well said! I remember my mum saying similar to me when I couldn’t get my dd to sleep in her own bed. “Don’t worry Kahlua, she won’t want to share your bed when she is 15!

I wouldn’t worry either. Just keep offering other foods, let him see you eating, have mealtimes together etc and eventually it will sink in and he will try other foods. One thing I would do is ensure he always sits at the table with you, not wandering around with food. Teach by example blah, blah, blah.

Good luck and enjoy your lovely baby.

windchimesabotage · 29/03/2018 14:17

I used to mix in the pre made pouch or jar food with some 'real' food... like a bit of pasta or some mashed up peas or carrot... just to add to texture and get baby gradually used to the taste of other things (because 'real' food can taste bland after the jar food which tends to be quite sweet)

Mightymucks · 29/03/2018 14:19

Oooh yes, you can get very small pasta shapes, you could cook them and mix them in to the jars.

CrampItUp · 29/03/2018 14:25

Wow you haven't?
Nope.

I don't know why you're so angry with me. In my experience, no I haven't known a little kid to starve themselves, sorry but I haven't.
You seem to be really arsey with me. I'm not interested in arguing on here. Sorry you'll have to direct it elsewhere because I won't be engaging with you further.

sourpatchkid · 29/03/2018 14:32

Cramp I don't understand why you keep going with this? What was your genuine question? She said her child had starved themselves and then you just questioned it again? Why- what was the point? Had you not considered that actually that was probably quiet a traumatic time for her. The conversion essential went

Horrible things don't happen
Yes they did to me
Did they?
Yes
Yeah but DID they though?

To be honest I'd be angry too

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