Sharing positive birth story

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After a very rough pregnancy, (HG & gestational diabetes), I had a really great labour. I won't give too many details but it was only an hour and a half long. I did have to have an episiotomy and the vontouse. I often overshare my story to nervous pregnant women because it's something I'm sure would have put my mind at rest, but I don't want to come across smug.

What do you think? Should I not talk about my experience? Do you wish more women would talk about their positive experiences rather than all the horror stories that get shared?

hat's not a positive birth story, it's a delivery with complications

That's not for you to say, and you should apologise for that comment.

OP, are you sharing when asked, or volunteering to people who haven't? Because the former is fine (as long as there is no smugness or judgement) but the latter is not. People generally either don't care or actively don't want to hear it.

There seem to be a few folk out there who regard doctors as evil interventionists, who spoil normal labours by wielding unnecessary forceps and performing episiotomies for the sheer hell of it.
Episiotomies are done to avoid more serious tearing, which in the worst cases could have caused faecal incontinence. And many forceps deliveries have saved distressed fetuses from hypoxia and brain damage.
Obstetric registrars would much rather sit in the labour suite coffee room than go round looking for unnecessary procedures to perform on unwilling victims!
A “normal” delivery is one with a safe healthy mother and baby, however that needs to be achieved.
Have a look at maternal death rates in the 3rd world, to see what non medical labour looks like.

Babdoc A very sensible contribution. Thank you.