To think I've put myself in the same position??

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Ffs! Here I am again, only a year & 9 months later.

Likely pregnant with someone's baby who I'm no longer in contact with. Why didn't I learn
The first time??

I say likely, I'm not sure yet as pregnancy test won't show yet. However, I'm getting the same symptoms as last time & just "feel" different.

I can't do this again, I can't be a single mum to 2 kids.

(I've got BPD, I am incredibly reckless with food & sex, I am on a waiting list for treatment).

WIBU to consider adoption to help another family than to even think about Abortion??

Hi OP, only a quick reply but I think it's best to wait to have a confirmed preg test before thinking about adoption

WIBU to consider adoption to help another family than to even think about Abortion??

At this stage yes.

A total waste of head space, time, emotion and stress until you do a pregnancy test.

Not easy I know, but I'd wait until you have a test result.

I know I'm jumping the gun massively but I'm a huge worrier & it's on my mind constantly. I've just got no one to talk to IRL

As you're so early in the possible pregnancy, you have lots of options open to you.

You are not unreasonable to consider all the options available to you.

Abortion is one option. Adoption is another. Do you think your MH will be able to withstand this pregnancy with the hormone shifts? Can you take the medication you need whilst pregnant? Do you think you will be able to follow through with giving the baby away after carrying them for 9 months? Do you think you will be able to live the lifestyle needed whilst pregnant (not smoking, drinking, eating relatively healthy)?

There is a reason why women need to have all the choices available to them. I am certainly not telling you what choice to make, just think through all the options and how this will affect you.

You can beat yourself up, but the better way to think about this is how this can change your decision-making going forward. Look into getting a coil or other long-term contraception that you do not have to think about every day.

I am glad you are trying to get help for your MH issues.

I feel like an idiot for even considering all this yet given that I haven't had confirmation yet but I feel so different mentally & have exactly the same symptoms as before.

I guess I'm just reaching out

How long til your period's due/you can do a test?

Lovvie - no ones going to judge you - sorry if Im speaking out of turn, one of my dearest frinds has BPD and can be incredibly sexually reckless if her medication is out of kilter - would a coil or implant work for you in future?

In a couple of days, I didn't want to test too early & it be negative only to be given false hope.

I was taken off hormonal contraception due to sudden decline in my mental health (that's how my first DS came along, although he was very much wanted & planned just arrived 9 months earlier than expected).

I guess il have to just suck it up & get the coil done (I have an incredibly low pain threshold).

Did you test OP?

How are things op?