Old baby clothes

[jacobsgirl]

So I have a lot of clothes my boy has never worn and rather than sell them I decided to just give them to people because we all know how tough it can be money wise and I didn't feel comfortable asking for money.
So I posted on fb asking for any mums to be expecting a wee boy to message me if they wanted these clothes but I specified they'd have to pick them up as I don't drive.

A girl responded to me who I don't know but lives in my town asking for the clothes - so I bagged them all up for her (really nice stuff outfits with tags still on etc)
She told me she'd be able to pick them up after she got her daughter from nursery at 3pm
At 3:30 she sent me a message "on my way"
Then 4 and 5 o'clock fly by without a sign of her arriving , so I was delaying my sons bath in case she showed up , in the end me and my partner bathed my boy late and just put him to bed.
I had sent her messages and at 7:30 finally got a reply saying something came up and could I meet her the next day with the clothes instead when I'd already specified they had to be picked up.
I was really annoyed and I had family plans the next day so I replied "sorry I'm busy tomorrow"
Not heard a thing since
Do I continue to try and get her to pick the clothes up or do I give them to someone who might be more reliable ? Am I out of
Order for being a bit miffed ? Does she still d serve all the clothes ? I had other girls message me
About them but I'd already made arrangements with this girl.
Thoughts?

She's rude to not just message you and let you know. Don't give them to her now , find another Mum who would appreciate them more !

Just say others were interested and when she didn’t turn up- and you didn’t hear from her you gave it to One of those girls!

Depends how generous you're feeling! I would a) message and say if I don't hear from you by x time to, arrange COLLECTION, I will be passing them to the next person in line
B) IF you can agree a mutually convenient time and place to meet (that is absolutely somewhere you would be anyway) give her one last chance.
C) arrange collection by the next person and if you hear from the first again, apologise and say you needed them gone so you have passed them.on as you didn't hear back from her.
I'd do A

Give them to someone else or better still a charity shop. I'd be bothered the people picking them up are just going to try and sell them or take to one of these cash for clothes places. Plus You always get people messing you around, even when it's for free.

Find someone else. Or personally I’d charity shop them. I’m always giving to charity shop in the hope it makes even a small difference.

You could ask your local FB group if anyone collects for the local women's shelter. They often need baby clothes for women fleeing with nothing.

I give my daughter's used/unused clothes to a baby bank. People really in need are referred there.

Some people are so cheeky. I would give them to the person who messaged you after this woman.

give them to a charity shop or women's shelter.

Time wasters are the worst part of the internet. It is almost worth making them available as a bundle for £5 via eBay (for collection only) so people will actually come and get it.

Never even thought about a woman's shelter I really like that idea !

Just feel like a mug haha
I might send her a message and say if u can't collect within the next few days it will be going elsewhere

I’d give them to someone else; it’s rude of her to do that especially when they’re free

Charity shop for certain.

We have a local charity who will uplift clothes, toys, househol equipment, etc. They then sell selected items in the charity shop, and make up packs to distribute through HV, volunteers, etc. they make the best decisions, and stop me agonising over the best way to dispose of stuff. Maybe you have a similar group locally? HV may know.

I'd send her a message and tell her that due to her unreliability and not turning up you're offering them to the next person that enquired.

I've had a similar experience recently. Somebody local had a house fire and was desperate for things to replace what they'd lost temporarily, including clothes for the 2 kids. I had a huge bag so I offered them free for collection. They gratefully accepted. And didn't turn up. Twice. They're still sitting in my hall and will go to the charity shop or similar now. People are strange.

I've found that offering something for free brings out the timewasters. Better to charity shop things if you cba to sell them.

Unfortunately I’ve found that if you give something for free, people value it accordingly

I have better luck giving to collections for refugees, people fleeing domestic violence etc if there’s anything like that in your area

Definitely see if a woman’s refuge needs them. Some women leave with literally the clothes on theirs and their children’s back (no purse, phone etc)

I might send her a message and say if u can't collect within the next few days it will be going elsewhere
Bugger that, send her a to the point message saying they need to be collected by X time (hours not days! Definitely today) or you'll need to let them go to someone else who is interested.

I’d be careful with giving stuff like this to someone you don’t really know. I’ve known people to offer things for free and then they’ll be up on Fb selling sites 2 hours after collection.