Waiting for police

[Justondnightonly]

So 5 years ago I was in an abusive relationship ,ended 4 yrs ago and no contact since, tonight he's at my door begging me to forgive him I said no chance and to go away, he's at my door knocking but I refuse to answer, called police but still waiting!!! I'm scared now

Ring them agsin and tell them it’s urgent and you are scared.

I've called and waiting for someone to come to me, they know the previous assaults but no one is here yet

Is he still outside?

Move away from the door, don’t engage with him.

Is he likely to get in? Do you have a baseball bat, just incase?

Are you there? Stay strong and keep the door shut. Are you okay?

No I think he's gone now, I made sure all lights were off and called the police, they have my address flagged from years ago,they said they would send someone out but I'm still waiting

Hopefully police have arrived x

Hope the police are there now.

what a tosser.

Oh dear. Did you see him leave?

they'll be there soon, if they're not already op.

He's gone as far as I know but no idea about police,a few years ago I was on high alert with the police so maybe as its been a few years I may not be so much, I spoke to them about half an hour ago and apparently they were sending someone out but nothing yet, I just don't feel safe

Can you go stay with someone? Ring a friend to come round?

Have the police come yet, OP?

Hope you are okay.

Hope you are safe. If the police have not come yet:
All doors and windows locked.
Pile of magazines or newspapers right by any door or entry point (extra useful if any of them are still in plastic wrapping) - he will trip or slip on them.
Spray bottles of detergent/hairspray/nit treatment/room scent spray (the sort where you squeeze a trigger are the easiest) spray at the face and follow up with a good smack with whatever's handy, then run.
And get on to the police again in the morning, or WA, for another restraining order. He has NO RIGHT to be anywhere near you and if he has turned up again and made an attempt to contact you, you should be able to get a new order.

Police have just left, not much they can do, they have put me at high risk due to previous assaults and told me to call if he turns up again, I now can't sleep, I'm alone and have no one to be with me,why now after so many years is he coming back?

Op please see a solicitor today I you can and get them to get some kind of restraining order taken out against him...the kind where if he ignores the restraining order and comes withing a certain distance to you then you can call the police and he will go to prison..get it and then if he comes back the police will be able to do something ...

It should be quite easy to get a new non-molestation order, given that he has previous form for assaults on you and he has suddenly reappeared and attempted to harm or at least distress you once again. (If he was trying to make contact to tell you he's Found Jeeeezus or is in one of those shitty rehab programmes that tell you to apologize to people you hurt in the past, he wouldn't be doing it at midnight, out of the blue).

It may be that he previously disappeared because he was put in prison for stalking/harassing/assaulting someone else and now he's been let out. It may be that this one incidence of him bothering you is enough to have him stuck back in a cell. We can but hope...

Hope you’re ok op x

Wow he came back after 4 years no contact. That's really crazy. Could you look into moving? I know you should have to but sounds really scary.

Last year the police and Victim Support put me in touch with Paladin, they were very helpful and gave me some good advice.
Keep an incident diary, see the police about a non molestation order, and contact Paladin.

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