To shave ds and my heads (nits)

[YarnObsessor]

Today I found nits on ds, I check his hair three times a week and he’s never had any before, he doesn’t go near other kids much as he needs his space (asd) but I found them today, I hate them, I was neglected as a child and was riddled with them my whole childhood and never treated so I have a fear of them now.

I’ve shaved ds head to number one and used hedrin spray on him, twice, stripped his bed etc

Tomorrow I’m shaving my head to number 4 and using hedrin even though I’ve checked my hair 20 times and I’ve not found anything (my hair is always shaved short, usually number 8 though)
Dh is bald so he’s not likely to be infested.
Dh thinks I was a bit over the top to immediately shave ds head and says that just the hedrin would’ve been enough but I needed them gone and with his hair this short I could see them moving around on his scalp which made me gag but I can now see at a glance that there’s nothing in his hair.

No advice as wouldn't shave my ds head (he has lovely long curly hair) but I totally feel your pain. I am terrified of nits and won't be able to deal with them when they get them. I did have an agreement with my ex that he will deal with the nits when they get them but we have since broke up and now he doesn't bother with the kis so don't know what I will do.

Shaving hair won't help, they'll just live on what's left.
Treat with Headrin and then nit comb with conditioner for a few days to be sure you got them all.

One of my daughters has very long hair and picked them up from a friend. We used loads of conditioner and a nitty gritty but comb and it worked perfectly. You just have to comb at certain times in their lifecycle (can't remember which - but you could google it). I shaving necessary.

No shaving necessary, that should have read.

Overreaction much?

Head lice are a fact of life and you’re best getting a Nitty Gritty comb and just getting in the habit of a weekly comb-through. If you find any then do combing every two days with conditioner for two weeks or every three days for three weeks.

No Nasty potions or sprays needed. They don’t work mostly anyway and cause reinfection as they develop immunity to the commonly used treatments.

Hedrin is brilliant you really don’t need to shave your head.

It’s not a pesticide - so you can actually use it multiple times regularly as it doesn’t effect the nervous system. It’s silicone based and suffocates the nits. I’d repeat in a couple of days and I really don’t think you need to shave !!

Plus I think you can get it on pharmacy first or gp or you could when I worked in a pharmacy

I don't know how old your DS is or how he feels about what you have done.

Potentially you have been very unreasonable and possibly abusive toward him. Whatever your past experiences (for which you deserve sympathy) as a responsible parent you are required to insulate your child from your own neurosis as far as you can. There are perfectly acceptable treatments for head lice. This was a massive over reaction. You need to seek professional help for your issues rather than subject your son to such extreme treatment.

Shaving hair is not necessarily a good thing because it's harder to comb out eggs and hatchlings, which is an essential part of getting rid. Then, once you do get rid of them, you'd have to keep his head shaved like that constantly, which is not fair unless it's a style he's comfortable with.

Head lice are horrible, and to have been left untreated as a child must have been painful, distressing and humiliating. I can't even imagine how much younger you suffered.

But, please don't take that your experiences out on your boy. He has loving parents who will get rid of headlice as soon as they're found. He is NEVER going to suffer like you did. Never.

Have you ever had counselling to help you deal with these feelings? I think you and your family would benefit from a more balanced attitude towards the dreaded lice. Because, I can guarantee you that this will not be the last time your son picks them up and you don't want to spend the rest of his childhood trapped with this level of anxiety.

Wow... abusive haircuts.... that’s a new one on me! He always has shaved hair usually number 2 so it’s not much shorter than usual and he was due a haircut anyway so I don’t think he will be humiliated and distressed by his hair, if anything he likes it because it’s prickly.

I may over react by shaving my own head but I’m not overly sensitive about my hair.
I’ve had lots of therapy and am mainly in control of my phobias but I do get a bit stressed by them.

The morning after the haircut and hedrin we had a snuggle in front of a film and because he was relaxed and his hair was so short I was able to see all the eggs and pick them all out.
I am still lice free.
Dh is still bald
Ds is six, he doesn’t care about his appearance at all as it should be at that age.

He looks adorable with his short hair and glasses and half his teeth fallen out. (Baby teeth, fell out naturally, don’t call ss!)

Shaving is a bit ott tbh.
When dd was 4 yo we were on holiday in France and discovered the mother of infestations!
The nits were so big you could see them running when you got the comb out!
I personally don’t want any herbal shite, bombard them with strong chemicals, no need to change bed linen and shave heads, job done!