To want to scream at my SIL.

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Ok I'm obviously not going to scream at her.

But she is one of these women who have a flawless pregnancy, she sailed through it and said it went by too fast.
And now she has the most easy going baby in the history of babies... ever!!!!
I have never seen anything like it!

I'm currently pregnant with my second.
I had bad morning sickness with my first and I lost 3 stone from it! I also had severe pgp and my hips were in so much pain that I was in a wheelchair and crawling about my own house!
It's happening again and I am miserable. Utterly miserable. I HATE being pregnant.

Now I love my SIL, she is a really lovely woman and we get on great but I feel like she really does not understand, she just can't get it. I'm sure she thinks I'm being dramatic.
But comments, however well meant they are, like oh try to stay positive and it will fly by and oh don't worry, you'll be fine once the baby is here (I had nasty PND last time) is just making my hormonal pregnant blood boil!

Op I’m with you, practise you most shrivelling if looks to be let loose on anyone who crosses your path. I had spd too. It fun holding your hips together if you turn over in bed isn’t it. Birth and subsequent visits to hdu and scubu leftcme with ptsd. Davina McColl has come in for severe criticism recently for goingvon about how easy birth was. General consensus was it was alright to slap her! Hope things get easier once the baby is here. Ask sil to run round after you whilst her baby is sleeping😜

People with easy babies can't understand difficult babies. They have no idea. All my NCT friends have really easy babies and just don't understand how difficult mine is, they cannot comprehend how I can't enjoy all day or how I can't just spend a day at home 'pottering' because I'm screamed or whined at all day if we're not constantly on the move.

I had an easy pregnancy and birth, so I know I can't really appreciate what it's like to have a hard one.

I'm sorry you are having a hard time of it OP, I too can't imagine how hard it must be and feel for you.

I can do this despite having 3 easy pregnancies, labours and babies because I listen to people like you and try and help.
I'm sure your sil is just lacking empathy, just rely on your friends for support and sympathy.
I'd have the kettle on if you were my friend OP.
Good luck and please don't overthink pnd, I've had friends who have had it once but never again with subsequent babies.

Her first baby was easier than mine which she thought was due to her parenting and not the fact she simply had an easy baby, so she was always offering me parenting advice

That's what is annoying - people who think you have somehow chosen to have a shitty pregnancy and/or noisy non-eating/sleeping baby, rather than realising that it's not all sunny side up for everyone.

Easy babies make difficult teenagers. I had a difficult baby and I am hoping for an easy teenager. Damn right in the case of DD1.

DD2 has been 'challenging from the moment she was born until now, age 12. Maybe she will be an easy teen!

DS, I call my calm in the storm, he better not change.

You SIl, if I read it right, has had ONE baby!! She has no clue!! Bless her!

As far as i can see, those who have an easy baby followed by a holy terror have the absolute worst time. There is something about the combination that wreaks havoc on a mother’s confidence. I was always glad I had my holy terror first and then everything seemed easier in comparison. That might be the combo that she gets......