Recently, after 18months TTC, I conceived a baby with DH but unfortunately we had to end the pregnancy at 19 weeks due to severe medical conditions the baby had that would have severely affected her quality of life. This decision was made after much heartache and in-depth discussions. The worst of it is that she was born alive and lived for a few hours. It has ripped our hearts out.
We have also recently discovered that we will need IVF to conceive another child guaranteed not to have the same condition our daughter had. Tough times ahead.
The problem here is that a very close friend of mine (who knows all of this) is pregnant and her due date is just three weeks after mine should have been. I’m finding it very difficult and feel awfully jealous when she mentions a midwife appointment or other things like that.
WIBU to avoid all pregnancy discussions until I can cope better? I’m normally very excited about this sort of thing with friends. Should I communicate this to her? I feel I shouldn’t tell her explicitly but I don’t want her to think I’m ignorant. It’s just too painful.