My OH's parents are not my fav people. They came to 'help' when I had just given birth to our baby after being put on bed rest. I was so poorly and our baby was born early and poorly too. They were saying things to him like "are you her slave then?" because he was changing nappies and bringing me food that I'd cooked and frozen while pregnant. They told me that I was being unreasonable to want to spend time with him and that he was "going above and beyond for me." Meanwhile, they were going to the pub for hours on end with my OH and watching movies with him, while I was alone with the baby. My OH and his parents were slagging me off with them, it was horrible. He totally took their side. It all ended with them shouting at me in my own home, and I've not spoken to them since. My OH wasn't very bothered to have a close relationship with his parents before this, but since he's almost regressed and wants to include them in everything! He goes up to see them with the baby (they live 2 hr away thankfully), goes to gigs with them, texts all the time. They do not make any effort to see this baby at all, despite them passing through where we live often from when they are on holidays.
I mentioned the baby's 1st birthday party, which wouldn't be happening for months anyway, and his first response was, what about my mum and dad? I think it would be better for them to celebrate seperately at a soft play centre or park/whatever and keep the party just for us and friends so I can feel happy and relaxed instead of an anxious wreck! He disagreed and we had a huge fight. Am I being unreasonable?