Do grandmothers/aunts to have access to child?

[namechange347683]

Name change here and sorry if abit vague I just don't want to be outed. Basically AIBU to not allow a close family member of DC talking along the lines of their grandmother/father, aunt/uncle to not have alone access with them. I haven't been happy with their behaviour in the past e.g being openly negative about me, doing things with DC I specially asked them not to, putting pics up on social media when told not to.
AIBU to argue that just because they are close family it doesn't automatically allow them 'rights' to my DC?

Gps /aunt's no rights at all.

Is there some Cheeky Fuckery going on?

Nobody has 'rights' to a child. Children have rights, adults around them have responsibilities.

What does the children's father think?

I would keep my mum away from my kids if she was openly negative about me, let alone an aunt. I don’t want my kids hearing me being badmouthed by a relative, and at least I can control that.

@Aprilmightmemynewname there sure is
@lalalalyra good point
@AllisLost father is in agreement with me says I need to stand up for myself and DC I just hate confrontation

It’s nice for them to have a relationship, but no they don’t/shouldn’t have any rights to see them or demand to see them. I really don’t get it when people think they have a say over a baby on the basis that they’re extended family.

Nope, they have no "rights". I do think it's good for children to have bonds with grandparents and aunts/uncles etc where possible. Could you warn them that if the behaviour keeps up, your child won't be going back, and see if anything changes? The putting pics on social media, when you've asked them not to, to me, says more about them wanting to be seen to be fab gran/aunt etc, than just getting on with being one. Like your dc are props in their life.

Then only see the people you want to see. Simply use avoidance tactics. It gets easier as they get older as they tend to be busier with their own commitments.

None of them have rights to have alone access time with your DC. If the parents think it's best not to then that's that.

If they have a close pre-existing relationship, they can apply to court for the right to contact with the child.

A court would only grant it if there are serious grounds to think that the parents are not able to make rational/reasonable decisions about this contact AND that it’s in the best interest of the child to have that contact.

I’ve only seen such contact ordered a couple of times. In both cases the children had actually lived with the grandparents for a length of time because of social services involvement ie the children had been removed from the parents temporarily.

So theoretically they can get rights of access but it’s extremely rare.

In your circumstances just tell them you’re not allowing contact. If they seriously want to pursue contact they can go to court but it will cost them a fortune (no legal aid for this) and they’re v unlikely to get anywhere.

No they have no legal rights.
If there are serious issues here in the sense that you want to go NC and don't want them to see dc's at all then, as pp have said, they may be able to legally get contact with them but only with circumstances that have already been explained.
If you just don't want them to be alone with dc's then there is absolutely no reason for you to allow it to happen. You have to do what is best for your dc's and YANBU at all.

Is there some Cheeky Fuckery going on?

Ha!!!! This made me laugh!

Nope nobody has rights to my DC. If they're trusted and loved then they have access but nope, no rights.

If it's a choice between a relative's hurt feelings or leaving my children in a situation I'm not comfortable with, the relative will get hurt every time and twice on a Sunday. My children's welfare trumps everything and everyone.