Another wedding one- well sort of!
A “friend” of mine has just sent me a message informing me she is getting married and we must catch up. I haven’t spoken to her for over 8months, since my Wedding, when her behaviour was completely unacceptable.
Everyone had drunk quite a bit by this point and we were dancing. I was dancing with other men and women (non-flirtatiously and having fun) and DH was doing the same. This friend decided to take the friendly dancing to another level with my DH (of all of about 5 hours!) gyrating against him and grabbing his tie. I was watching her behaviour as I know what she can be like with other men. DH was distancing himself and would dance with others but she would return. When she got his tie and dragged him to the floor, I lost it and split her grasp before storming off. Luckily no one saw, so no scene. DH followed and she didn’t return to the dance floor.
Since this day, I have avoided all events with mutual friends as I really don’t want/need this toxicity in my life. I am a little surprised that she hasn’t asked if she offended me, as we have gone from speaking on a weekly basis (just the odd txt) to nothing since our wedding.
Before everyone jumps to the conclusion I have overreacted I should explain the history to our friendship.
Ten years ago, this “friend” abandoned me on a night out (leaving me alone and about to miss last train home, after looking for her) to sleep with my ex bf of about a week. I didn’t speak to her for another 6 years, until being bought together for a mutual friend’s significant birthday party.
She has a lovely DF and I have witnessed many occasions where I have left a girls night out because I have felt uncomfortable with what she is getting up to with other men. Loose morals is possibly a bit lenient!
I am now in a dilemma as whether to reply and pretend everything is ok, which clearly after 8 months of NC it isn’t. She must be aware of this....Or just ignore?