What is the worst thing ever said to you by a boss?

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So many posts on here about bad bosses I was just wondering mine would be
I had a miscarriage on the Sunday and came into work on the Sunday and managed to get through. By Tuesday afternoon I was bleeding through my pads, pants and onto the chair and I was in a lot of pain so went home. I was off two days and when I got back my boss didn’t ask how I was or how I was coping and instead said
“why couldn’t you have worn a thicker pad and not gone home, we had some in the cuboard, you could have put two together”

Bitch

These are all really awful.

So sorry for everyone, how much crap are women on the receiving end of?!!
Merry yours has really stayed with me. What a bastard.

When I was younger, for a period of 3 months I worked 84 hrs a week, night and day shifts because my work life was happier than my home life and I felt so valued.

My boss asked me to cover an extra 6 hr shift straight after a night shift and I said no.

She said I was uncooperative and not a team player!

You shouldn't cut your hair so short, everyone will think you're a lesbian

As a student, working in a bar, my boss told me ‘it was a shame I didn’t have a decent pair of tits because it meant my face was wasted on an average looking body’

Prick.

"your tits look bigger - you on the blob?" - genuine quote from my 50+ year old boss to me, aged 22.

That's awful op, hope you don't still work there

Mine was a pig of a boss when I was just 17. He came into the office, put his hands round my throat and shook me. Aparently it was my fault he'd got a speeding fine because I'd rung him telling him a customer needed him urgently. I actually worked my notice for that prick!

Karma got him anyway, heard a few years ago his business went under, wife left and he lost his house.

I was 18 and on my first placement with a charity that works with vulnerable people. I had no idea I was pregnant and had a miscarriage one evening. I took the next morning off because it had gone on into the night. I text my boss in the morning to let her know and explained the situation.

When I got to work, my boss accosted me in front of the entire waiting room and asked me to repeat why I was late. I refused saying it’s private (as in, not for the clients to know) and I’d already told her. She then said:

‘Because it’s not true is it? You have to have sex to get pregnant and have a miscarriage and I’ve heard you and your boyfriend never have sex cos he’s shagging someone else.’

I walked out of course. She was in her 40s with 3 kids, had never met my DH and we had no mutual acquaintances. Very odd.

You need to try harder to get people to like you.

Turns out what he meant was that I was quiet and kept a low profile and needed to try harder for people to get to know me. Nothing to do with me being unlikable. I cried for several days, turned my computer so I faced the window and hated going into a company where people hated me.

First boss, me age 17,was obnoxious to everyone and used body odour as a management tool (you'd agree to anything to get him to go away, and yes he did do this on purpose). He claimed he didn't understand why anyone would discriminate against women as they look so pretty round the office. But what most offended me was when he was shouting and swearing at a bloke, claiming he'd fiddled his expenses, bloke asked why I wasn't being accused too, and boss said Crow isn't intelligent enough to fiddle expenses!

Worst was the boss who seemed lovely if rather incompetent, until I needed an endorsement to apply for promotion and he dithered and said he didn't see me as that level. I asked which of the criteria I didn't meet, providing evidence for all of them, and eventually it became clear that he didn't think a disabled woman would 'fit'. He then scuppered the application.

He seemed all in favour of equality until that. Worked with and for many other men and while lots would make risqué comments it was all part of actual banter, ie expecting as much in return, as opposed to 'bantz'.

Ex boss who runs a local Wholefood shop, and has an alcohol problem, went ballistic at me one Monday after having a weekend taking MDMA..She even threw stock across the shop in front of a customer, while i stood open mouthed ..
When i eventually walked out in tears, she sent me a text saying 'hope you sort yourself out soon'.. I never went back!

I used to work for a man who asked female employees to “slip off your shoes” so he could look at our feet. I refused but others complied! He was a noted creep. He once cornered another female in a room after an office event. Except one of her other male colleagues followed him and reported him to HR. Creepy boss moved on soon after.

This is such a depressing thread. The amount of shite that women are supposed to put up with. When I read about #metoo I think it is being overplayed and done to death. But when you read these examples you realise the mountains we have to climb and how necessary that campaign is.

I had just disclosed to my boss that I was having counselling, having discovered that I was pregnant with a very surprise fourth child and that I was in pieces about the whole thing. He'd always been very supportive and family orientated and despite the nuisance me having had three previous pregnancies must have been for the firm, never made me feel bad. He looked at me, said "Oh dear, I really thought you were more intelligent than that".

And another of the senior partners told me that they'd promoted my colleague (who did my first maternity leave cover) and not me because "although you are much better at the job" he "needed his confidence boosting". I resigned the next morning - they refused to take it, promoted me and said "we didn't think you were that ambitious"......

Got a job at a well known shop catering to new mums when I was 17. On my first day I was put in the staff room alone to watch 4 hours of child safety videos with details of the car seats even though only 2 people in store were fully trained to fit them and it’s not something I’d ever be expected to do. I was told there was CCTV and I would be monitored watching the videos and on all breaks. Needless to say nobody spent their breaks there.

I was given a store catalogue and told to memorise it by my next shift. That was the extent of my training. I had no clue about anything other than the buzz words in the catalogue descriptions.

The female manager would watch me like a hawk from the balcony over the first floor. I was told to push the store card and should be selling 5 a shift, even though I hadn’t been trained on the tills. Then when I restocked the literally bare shelves (dummys and bottles seem like staples you’d want to have on offer!) I was told off and told to make myself available to the customers. There was one couple in the shop. My colleagues were sat on a bench behind the checkouts licking batteries and arranging a night out. I quit after 6 weeks.

Whilst having our IVF treatment I had 3 periods of sickness due to miscarriages more or less on the bounce all within a 12 month period. My manager and HR all knew about my infertility and recurrent miscarriages and were very supportive. When my manager went on maternity she was temporarily replaced with a Male arsehole. When he joined the team within a week he requested a meeting to put me on a sickness plan. Fine, I really couldn't have given a shit about that but he wanted to know the ins and outs of why I couldn't come to work after each miscarriage. He really wouldn't let it go, asking why I needed to be at home/hospital and what were the 'symptoms' that required me to have time off. After about 45 minutes of him continually demanding to know I described the scene of my latest miscarriage in all its bloody glory and asked if he would have liked that to have happened whilst I was at work speaking to customers. He said that if getting pregnant was such an issue why didn't I stop work and concentrate on that and that I couldn't have sickness leave for 'pregnancy' and then 'demand' maternity leave when my 'issues were sorted'. That episode shocked me to the core and like the total muppet that I was I never reported him. I hate myself for not doing so.

I had a boss who has thankfully now retired but pretty much every conversation we ever had involved him asking...
A.) whether my partner had proposed
And then, after I got married,
B.) whether I was pregnant or thinking about becoming pregnant.
He also used to say (behind closed doors) that other managers were stupid to keep employing women because they would be getting pregnant and maternity leave etc.

My current boss said a few misguided things after I then suffered several miscarriages. I am so sorry for your loss.

Having told my bosses wife over the phone that he was having an affair, he called my mum and said I was the rudest person he had ever met!

Namechange yuck. I reckon that happens way more than we think. There are some dirty ones out there.

Funny timing. Guy on local radio today said he refuses to employ women until they are over 40 because women are unreliable under that age as they just bugger off to have babies and expect the company to pay for it.

When I returned to work after spending most of the week in hospital with my 9 month old DS with bronchiolitis, I was asked if I had considered a nannie to help with childcare problems.

One evening went to works canteen with boss and another colleague.

We all took our food and sat down but because the serving woman was busy we were planning on paying after eating (as was the custom).

Boss gets up to pay for his but queried the price as it seemed too expensive. Serving woman said she thought he was paying fro me as well (no idea why?). He then turns round and says loudly to anyone who would listen, 'I shag her for free so I'm going to start paying for her meals!!'

I was horrified as was my colleague (who even offered unprompted to be a witness if I wanted to complain).

Boss had always been a creepy slimeball but even now I'm shocked that he came out with that (I assure that had never been anything other than a boss/employee relationship).

These are so shit. Glad to know that we're not alone though. Mine was a female boss too. I was working in retail. I made a mistake the day earlier and had mislaid something. The next day in front of the staff team she said "and what kind of moron leaves the (thing I had misplaced) on the shop floor" - The whole staff teamed pissed themselves laughing all knowing it was me. I was horrified, I actually have never properly recovered and that was 2014

Female boss three years older than me told me last month that my work is shit, I'm horrible to be around, I'm too forgetful, and the menopause is no excuse for below-par output b cause she doesn't have a problem with it.

I'm 45, the menopause had hit me like a ton of bricks and I literally had the first box of HRT in my bag waiting for my period to start so I could take it.

When I told him that DW was expecting, due at our busiest period: "If you want to keep your job, she'll have to have a termination". That wasn't the worst, I can't repeat that one. All I'll say is that I went in the following day with a large friend, and took my month in lieu of notice out of the petty cash.

He went under when a very unpleasant gentleman collected a bigger debt, and he probably can't type with his left hand any more.

“Well it’s early days yet anything could happen” when I Told my boss I was 14 weeks pregnant after a previous miscarriage and subsequent 3.5 years of TTC! (Which she knew all about!! )

"You're unlikeable and no one would choose you to be on their team." Fortunately, my experience of most colleagues doesn't back that up, but it hasn't done much for trust or communication with my manager.

Yet it seems pretty mild compared with the shit a lot of people on this thread have had to go through. It's a pretty depressing thread.