To ask my partner not to stare

[hollyindie]

Hi everyone

So before we start can I just say I know everyone is human and everyone looks

Me and my partner have been together for 2 years and we have a 2 month old baby and ever since baby has been here it's been really difficult.
I know there is a few factors in this such as my post baby belly and insecurities but my question is AIBU to ask my boyfriend not to stare at other girls when we are together?

He nerve used to do this or certainly I never knew he did it, it's ever since we've had our boy that he does it all the time and it makes me so sad to think that since our baby he doesn't. Find me attractive anymore and he prefers other women
I get that guys look but this is a full on check her out look and head turns
It's so embarrassing when me and baby are next to him and he is too busy drooling over someone else I feel totally worthless :(

He is a disrespectful twat I'd get rid but I don't put up with shit like that.

My partner would never do this. It isn't inevitable or normal, he's being a disrespectful shit. Feel free to tell him so.

You shouldn't feel worthless - it has very little to do with you - but you should ask yourself whether HE is worth it.

Full on staring at strangers like some kind of dirty old bloke in a mac?

I have a feeling you and your perfectly normal adult's belly could do a lot better...

Too right you can tell him.

There's a difference between noticing someone is attractive, in passing, and full on, neck swivelling, checking someone out.

It's disrespectful and twatty, get him told.

Of course people look at people if they find them attractive, but it's possible to do it discreetly without making your partner feel like shit. At this time in your life, with a new baby and post baby body, he needs to be ven more sensitive to you. Tell him how you feel.

Ah ,poor you. I always feel sorry for the women whose partners are blatantly checking out women right in front of them. It's not so much the checking out ,it's the lack of respect.
My partner never does when he's with me ,but I know he probably does when I'm not around.
I wonder whether it's always happened but you're noticing it now as you're more aware of your own body and more self conscious after just having a baby. I just find it strange him suddenly starting to do it.

Either way ,it's disrespectful and I'd be having none of it.

He is a disrespectful twat I'd get rid but I don't put up with shit like that.

Well said Lola. Exactly my thoughts. Get rid and enjoy your baby.