My dd got invited to a birthday party. The kids used to be very good friends but have grown apart and tbh the kid is not very pleasant to my dd now, so I asked her if she wanted to go and received an emphatic NO. I asked why and she said “she’s not nice to me at school mummy so why would she be nice at her party?”. I messaged the mother and told her we had plans ( which we do most weekends when I’m not working) so dd would not be attending. I got a curt reply back and thought little more of it. But today a member of this kids family interrogated me and my child as to what was so important that she missed this party. I told them the truth, that because of the rain we didn’t do anything overly special to which we were told oh well you should have come to the party then. Dd felt very uncomfortable and I was livid as it’s really none of thier business. I think they are going to turn this into an issue so I’m thinking that I should just have told her that the reason my dd didn’t go to the party was because this child was an unpleasant bully. My dd wasn’t the only child that didn’t go but I didn’t see this person interrogate anyone else. Was I being unreasonable not to make dd go to this party just because the kids used to be friends?