Children's friendship

[Crankywitch]

Aibu if I don't let my dd to go to her friends house? My dd (10) was treated very badly by her friend's mother (excluding and bullying). The friend, let's call her Amy, moved to boarding school at Christmas and there has been nc since. My dd had been very upset about it but has now mostly put it behind her. Amy has kept in contact with another friend, Laura (this really upset my dd but both laura and amy have phones and my dd doesnt). Laura's mother, who knows everything that has happened (& thinks the mother is evil, as do I) has invited my dd and Amy for a playdate next week. Should I let her go? Or will I open old wounds? Or might they have a nice heart to heart? Agh!!

If the issue is the mother not the daughter and the playdate isn't being hosted by the mother in question then why not let her go, see her friend, scratch that itch and have some closure.

What does your DD want to do? Does she even want to go? If she wants to go, perhaps give her a get out clause for an early collection. Can you lend her a phone for the afternoon, so she can contact you if she needs to come home? Perhaps, Laura's mum can keep a close eye, what with three being a crowd .......

There is no right or wrong answer and navigating these tricky situations is a rites of passage. As much as we want to we can't protect them from everything. Start by asking your DD.

Good luck OP

Never thought of lending her my phone- thanks! If I give her my phone I can collect her if/when it gets weird. My dd wants to go but I believe that it will be threes a crowd and my daughter will be excluded. Especially as Amy & Laura have become best buddies over the phone since christmas.