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To Be Annoyed at DH Smoking?

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ExcuseTheCheese · 26/03/2018 21:51

Me and DH agreed before DD was born that we would no longer smoke or at least not whilst DD is an infant. I don't smoke, I was a social smoker in my early twenties and DH said he was the same but over the years it seems DH is impressionable when it comes to smoking, someone could offer him a cigarette and he feels his arm has been twisted. At Christmas he went to his work Christmas party and smoked, I could smell it on him when he came home and said I was unhappy as we'd talked about it. When we were cuddling on the sofa the other day I noticed his neck and beard smelt fragrant and he said it was Febreze. I didn't ask any further although it made me suspicious at the time. Today I was stroking his hair as he bathed DD and noticed it smelt musky and stale like smoke so I asked if he'd been smoking and he said yes.

I'm really annoyed, he rocks DD (who is a baby) to sleep and is holding her close after smoking and has hid it. I've been hospitalised with respiratory issues recently which is why I feel so strongly about it. I think he's being deceptive and had the opportunity to tell me the other day but didn't. He doesn't see that because he said he hadn't lied.

AIBU about this?

OP posts:
Joleney · 26/03/2018 21:52

YANBU in the slightest.

Idontdowindows · 26/03/2018 21:59

I don't think you're being unreasonable, no. Not at all.

bakingdemon · 26/03/2018 22:04

He's being a twat. You shouldn't smoke if you're going to be around children. (I mean, you shouldn't smoke at all given it kills half of all people who do it, but around children it's especially bad.)

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