Comments about a child

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3yo child, would you make personal comments about them in their ear shot e.g that’s disgusting, he’s dribbling, that’s so gross, why doesn’t he just swallow it, oh it’s all over his top. Repeat on and on emphasising how gross they think child is.

Said child was excited and couldn’t stop talking. Not the only time it has happened either, I don’t understand why people think children can’t hear when people make personal comments.

Am I being a bit precious?

No, how rude! Even if I thought that I certainly wouldn't say anything!

No. Incredibly rude behaviour imo, but some people are just dick heads

That’s really weird. Small children dribble.

The only thing I can’t cope with is a child’s streaming nose, if I know them I’ll hand the parent a tissue as I can’t even bring myself to attempt a wipe without retching. I’d never say anything though!

I'd think that anyone who would make comments like that towards an innocent child is a vile person and I'd certainly tell them to stop.

How mean to say that about a three year old... horrible

That's horrible. I usually avoid confrontation but would have to stick up for a 3yo being bullied like that.

I cannot stand people who do this. Babies and toddlers are dribbling machines. And they cannot defend themselves.

Huh?

I've never owned one and tend to stand at least 2 arm lengths from them, but aren't all knee huggers permanently wet at both ends?

As well as being spectacularly uninformed, that person was a total gobshite and should be utterly ignored from here on in. Until they spill, spit, dribble, or ado anything else even vaguely moist! Then have at them

You're not being precious. It takes a very nasty person to be so horrible about little people. And yes, sometimes kids are disgusting. We are still loosing the battle of "Stop picking your nose, did you just eat it?!?!?". Shit happens. So what? No one was harmed by your child's dribbling. Tell them to fudge off.

So I'm guessing either a childless friend or MIL?

That's really shitty if mine are eating and a bit excited I will tell them to calm down but that situation sounds just cruel

It is so awful. I remember my sister telling me she never loved her kids or bonded with them. They were about 3 and sat next to her. She said, ‘I just can’t love them.’ It was sad, but appalling that it was ok to say that I’m front of them.

Worse was my (now ex) friend who continually commented on how ugly her daughter was- right in front of her. From birth until I last spoke to her, so 6. She would call her lovely daughter gross.

YANBU I hate it when people do this and I get it a lot due to my son being autistic. You get used to it in a way but it doesn’t make you not to want to clout them round the head any less.

Those people are disgusting to say those things about a child, especially in your hearing range.

Guess they were all perfect never messy Precious Moments dolls as babes.

Try to brush it off, they’re the ones that are so miserable they say cutting things about a child.

My BIL does this. I’ve asked him not to repeatedly. So I do it back to him. Apparently a running commentary to your toddler about how bad uncle’s table manners are really is annoying.

I'd call them on it, something along the lines of "He's only 3 years old and will grow out of it, what's your excuse?"