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Should I apologise to the teacher?

41 replies

Joleney · 25/03/2018 21:49

On Friday, dd10's class had a class debate about whether school uniforms should be banned.

Responding to another student's argument, dd replied 'That's bollocks!'

Her teacher told her off for saying that word, and then later took her aside for a word to ask why she used that word. She says she said "Mummy says it all the time. I thought it just meant nonsense." The teacher told her it did mean that but was a lot ruder.

The teacher hasn't called me or anything (I've heard all this from dd), but should I apologise to her tomorrow morning? (The teachers all go outside at 8:45 to collect their class from the playground, so I'd have time for a quick word)

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Hotdoggity · 25/03/2018 21:52

Yeah you can do. It’s probably best.

northbynorthwesty · 25/03/2018 21:53

I’d leave it . what would you apologise for ? Maybe DD could apologise but I don’t think you should as you didn’t say it

Showergel1 · 25/03/2018 21:53

I wouldn't. Teacher has explained that it's not a word to say in school. Sounds like your dd understands that and won't say it again.

You can say what you like at home so there's nothing to apologise for.

OrangeHorses · 25/03/2018 21:58

Ha ha ha 😂 I'm a teacher, don't worry about it, I bet you gave them a good laugh in the staff room.

PorkFlute · 25/03/2018 21:59

Your poor dd if she genuinely didn’t know that it was ruder than nonsense and got into trouble! I’d apologise to your dd in your position and try and keep a lid on the swearing. Or at least make sure she knows they aren’t words to repeat.

IfYouDontImagineNothingHappens · 25/03/2018 21:59

Eh don't bother. Teachers swear too

redexpat · 25/03/2018 22:02

I wouldnt.

peterpanwendy · 25/03/2018 22:02

I'm a teacher too and wouldn't bother. It's our job to tell the children no but she didn't know what she was doing was wrong so your child's teacher won't think badly of you or your DD and yes they probably had a good laugh about it in the staff room :)

upsideup · 25/03/2018 22:09

What do you need to apologise for?

Camiila · 25/03/2018 22:10

Don't bother. Non issue

Chickoletta · 25/03/2018 22:10

Teacher here too - apologise to DD for putting her in that position if you like but no need to apologise to the teacher. I expect she found it quite funny.

AnnieAnoniMouser · 25/03/2018 22:18

No. You really don’t need to, it wasn’t a big deal & I t’s all sorted now, just move on.

Maybe run through other things you might need to warm DD not to use at school 🤣

Dahlietta · 25/03/2018 22:18

I’d be pretty confident that the teacher also uses words like bollocks and probably a lot worse. She feels obliged to pull up one of her pupils about it, but I am sure she isn’t judging you! If you feel the need to say anything, I would tell her you are embarrassed and can’t believe Dd said that, but I don’t think you need to! If you do, I bet you just laugh about it together.

CheeseyToast · 25/03/2018 22:18

Saying "that's nonsense!" in response to another child's opinion is pretty rude in itself.

FairiesVsPixies · 25/03/2018 22:19

Oh no, that is funny ShockGrin
I think I'd have to apologise to the teacher as well as my dd Blush

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 25/03/2018 22:21

Oh dear. DS2 at the age of 6 has finally learnt not to repeat what Daddy says.

monkeywithacowface · 25/03/2018 22:21

I imagine she probably had a laugh about it afterwards. Agree that you should probably apologise to your daughter for not telling her it's a swear word that she shouldn't repeat in school.

y0rkier0se · 25/03/2018 22:21

I was really hoping this was going to be a thread by a very very unreasonable parent who shouted at me for circumstances outside of my control on Friday, but alas not. As a teacher, there is really no need to apologise here.

bonnyshide · 25/03/2018 22:22

Hehehe teachers are human too, I bet you gave her a good giggle Grin

Puffycat · 25/03/2018 22:22

Haha I would say to the teacher “ I’m rather embarrassed and think I owe you an apology! “ with a big cheeky smile!

PinotMwah · 25/03/2018 22:24

I wouldn't apologise, personally, but I'm a sweary girl and swearing doesn't bother me in the slightest.

Maybe have a quiet word with your DD and let her know to be a bit careful with that word in school and settings where people may be offended.

But the teacher has likely heard it all before and she's done her job by pulling your DD up on it.

Best left for now.

PinkbicyclesinBerlin · 25/03/2018 22:24

I have heard a very similar story already today from another medium. I am therefore certain that this issue arises all the time. Personally I’d not lose a seconds sleep about it.

Yarboosucks · 25/03/2018 22:26

I would write out "I will not use bad words anymore" 20 times and I would give it to the teacher with a big grin

Ohyesiam · 25/03/2018 22:29

No, don’t bother. She is an ultra busy woman, and one it had made it to the staff room for a chuckle , she would have forgotten it.

My latest I heard in staff room was “ miss it’s pissing it down “ from a reception child. Memorable for the teacher because she has to keep a straight face.

SaveBandit · 25/03/2018 22:32

A child once called another child a twat when I was a nursery nurse. They were in the home corner and they were fighting over a doll. When I said that we didn't use that word at nursery she told me "Mummy says my daddy is a twat. I called x a twat because he didn't want to take the baby while I went to Wetherspoons." When I told her again not to say it she said "This is bullshit."Her mum was so apologetic to me when I mentioned it to her and you could see she was mortified.

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