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AIBU to feel so lonely with dh being unwell ?

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terriblewifeclub · 25/03/2018 20:45

My dh hasn't been well for over a year. It's got slowly worse and he FINALLY agreed to see doctors etc not long ago. We are pretty sure he has ankylosing spondylitis. It runs in his family although he is much worse.

He is constantly in pain and gets ridiculously tired after small things. He works full time in his own business and I am a sahm to 6 children who we also homeschool.

When he finishes work he goes to bed. In the weekends he can manage maybe a single thing - we could go to the shop for example but it would mean he was pretty much either lying down or sleeping the rest of the weekend.

Today I was gardening and he dug a hole for a plant - he had to go sit down straight after and has been sleeping since 7pm.

I am trying so hard to be supportive and just keep going through things - I appreciate that he goes to work and that he really is in pain.

But I'm feeling so alone and depressed about it sometimes I just feel like crying and sometimes I just feel angry at him. I feel like I am a terrible person

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Outnotdown · 25/03/2018 20:54

That sounds so difficult for you both op, and I'm sure I would also feel resentment, whether deserved or not. So don't beat yourself up.

Hopefully obtaining a diagnosis will help, as he will get treated for his condition. And perhaps you will both have access to support groups so you will be able to share some of this with people who understand exactly what you are going through.

This is a really difficult time. Hopefully soon you will have options to ease the burden. Flowers for you, and good wishes

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