To think MIL may have developed a problem with me?

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Have always had good relationship with MIL (she helped me get ready for my wedding, came on my hen night, has always been great) but for past few months she seems to have changed towards me. I can't quite put my finger on it but she seems to speak to me quite begrudgingly now, she tries to hide it but I'm really picking up on it. Today DH mentioned our upcoming holiday and she said "I thought you were going to Z?" He said "we are, we.'really doing both" and she raised an eyebrow and looked at him as though trying to communicate something with him, like it's something they have talked about when I've not been around.

I'm worried she thinks I'm a gold digger, user or treat him badly but I can't think what I've done! AIB paranoid or would you think something was up?

Mil raises eyebrow shocker!!

Seriously just ask her or ignore

Next time she's weird towards you, just ask if there is a problem. I'd have no issue asking if I thought there was some kind of situation going on - but people are used to my bluntness

Or...ask your husband. You're married. You should be able to talk to him

Has he borrowed money from her and not paid it back? Hence the raised eyebrow at the second holiday.

Has he been letting off steam t his mother?

My first thought is that he has been saying stuff to her...Or possibly borrowed money and failed to pay it all Back?
I think it's him you need to have conversation with and let him know if he doesn't tell you truth you will ask mil...that should make him tell you! (If there is anything to tell)

I've asked him and he says im just being paranoid and it's just the way she is - but she never used to be like this with me. He never borrows money, not to sound crass but we don't need to borrow money.

I would say you probably aren't being paranoid, instincts are usually right about this stuff, I don't know if I'd bother bringing it up though, I'd probably just ignore it

I'd just say to her, "I'm worried! Is everything ok between me and you?" And see what she says.
If she asks why do you think, just tell her that she doesn't feel as close to you as she used to and you're just a bit worried you may have done something to upset her without realising.

Just a wild guess and could be totally wrong, but do you think she could be impatient for grandchildren? As you're now married she may have been expecting that would come next. Perhaps the raised eyebrow over you going on two holidays is because she takes that as a sign you're spending time and money having fun and not on the next stage as she sees it? It's the sort of thing any decent person would know not to bring up because it's nobody's business but the couple's, but she might have been secretly nagging DH about it.

DH has had a vasectomy which she's aware of plus, we're old fogies, I'm 36 and he's 46 and we have 4 kids between us (two of them are her grand kids)

Does she take offence easily with others, could you have offended her and not know it?

Is she ill? Worried about treatment?

You may just have to ask her?